Me (21 F) and my bf (23 M) have been together for almost 4 years. Our sex life has been alright for 2 years, and we had a big break up (he cheated) and we got back together after 6 months. during that break up i had sex with someone and he made me finish. but he hasn’t made me come ever since we got back together. when i bring it up he brushes it off. i just feel like it’s getting boring. i love him so much and everything else in the relationship is great but it is very frustrating. idk what to do.
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He cheated too yet? I would say leave him just off that he clearly doesn’t care about you
It sounds like you have experienced something with the 2nd guy that you’re not getting with the first.
Have you tried to communicate more and say exactly what you want?
So if I’m reading this right, ever since he cheated on you you have not been able to orgasm with him. I’m a male and if I could no longer trust my partner I wouldn’t be able to orgasm either. It would be the end of the relationship for me. Maybe that’s what’s going on with you?
I suspect the whole emotional aspect of him cheating before could be the bigger problem, but if it is about the more physical aspect of hitting the right spots then I would say it really is your job to share your exact needs with him. You can also find ways to have him excite you more during intercourse by direct additional manual contact with your clitoris, or you could touch yourself or use sex toys.
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Dude here who’s given his fair share of orgasms to very different women over the years. It sounds like he didnt make you cum prior to cheating. So maybe he is just inexperienced and, even if he hadnt cheated, wouldnt have made you cum. Imho he should focus on oral bc thats the easiest way to make women cum. He should read some books and watch some videos. And he needs to practice a lot on you. Explicit feedback might be helpful but tbh your moaning should be enough to show him the way.
Also, if you cant trust him this may bar orgasms no matter how good his technique is.