he got out of an 8 month abusive relationship with a toxic ex 2 months before meeting me. it was pretty obvious he was rebounding because of how fast he was moving the relationship (asked me to meet parents 3 weeks in, lovebombing, WAY too into me too soon, etc.) and i feel really upset because i like him a lot.
would taking a break allow him to process his undealt with emotions or would i have to break off the relationship completely? we’ve only been dating for 2 months.
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A third option would be to severely ‘ration’ your interactions with him:
one lovebomb per month
one text exchange per day (ten minute limit)
one weekly meetup
parents meetup at three months
etc.
Perhaps it was abusive and toxic and when he met you, he knew how drastically different this was and you are so he didn’t want to waste a second playing games and being coy and following the silly 72 hr rule. Also for someone who gets out of a bad relationship, it could have been bad for awhile and he knew he wanted out and had already been processing things while still stuck in that relationship.
I don’t think time is the biggest factor in a relationship. The issues here is your feel like he was into you way too soon and he is love bombing you. Is this a reaction to finding out he was in a 8 month relationship two months ago or because you would generally feel this way 2 months in with someone?
Have you talked to him about it?