Have you ever developed feelings over gaming/discord or Teamspeak contacts or online friends.
I admit I am female but I just want to know if it’s normal or if I might do something wrong while chatting, gaming or talking. I am a very playful person and I like to spend my gaming time not all alone. But every once in a while someone of the current gaming group falls in love, we talk about it in private cause I am already taken. Then things get weird and in the end I lose the whole group. I play alone for some time, find someone, get introduced in a group, have the fun of my life in this new group with some new games, streaming together, gaming together and rinse and repeat. Someone gets attached, I think about the connection and it feels like a great friendship. But its always more.
I am tired of developing and loosing friendships every five months
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Sometimes men can confuse playful with flirty. Maybe their just getting the wrong signals🤷🏻♂️
Downside of being a gamer girl. You know girls/women in gaming is kind of rare, you also know that most gamers are pretty much loners and have very little real life social interaction. Hate to tell you this but it’s probably going to keep happening.
I can barely maintain any friendship that’s ever started online, I’ll maybe talk to someone on and off for matchmaking, and I damn near never hop in VC with someone I just met.
Your gaming group situations reminds me of a couple girl-friends (that is, female friends not GFs) I had who played D&D and always had this exact same issue. We were in our early 20s and they ended up cycling through about 5 groups before sticking with one in their 30s.
From my perspective (talking with my friends) this seems to be an issue when you’re in your early 20s (physically or mentally) where a lot of guys are like “OMG a girl gamer, must have” and they develop feelings over the slightest interactions. It doesn’t help when you get accused of “friend zoning” them (which is a term that didn’t exist when I was that age), but these folks need to realize that being nice doesn’t mean you’re owed a romantic relationship at all.
My guess from your story you’re a female in your early 20s? Sorry I don’t really have advice to help you out other than it gets better as you get older.
I started a sexting relationship with a woman from my mmo guild while I was in college. I was single, she was apparently unhappily married; looking back I was an enormous idiot but it was a lot of fun at the time.
I ended up walking away from the game when I started working early mornings, and when I came back she was gone, along with most of the guild.
I’ve got a mutual crush on a guy in my LGBT gaming Discord group.. we flirt and we message each other one-on-one, but I don’t really have any expectations of us ever meeting up IRL so I’m at least not super invested emotionally.
Male here, I have and it was the best decision ever.
My second ex and I have met over Toontown Rewritten (pc game).
Her character and mine looked identical to each other in every way. Same species, color, height, body shape. Only difference was the eyelashes to indicate female character. She was so fascinated by the similarities she then asked for my Snapchat. I feel in love with her smile when she showed herself to me and the rest is history.
Sadly it was my shortest relationship because of my dumbass but she had a heart of gold and thankfully on good terms with her 😊
I have not, no. When I’m in my gaming zone, all I care about is escaping reality and having some mindless fun.
My guess is that you’re just a sweet, nice and interesting girl. It’s to be expected I’d say. I assume you did make it known that you’re taken, and that should be enough, but I can imagine it’s not. Men are really lonely in todays age, deprived of physical touch and any kind of intimacy so it’s easy to develop feelings way too quickly and easily. Ik it’s rough to loose a friend group over stuff like this but hopefully you can understand these guys too 🙂
If I was you I’d casually mention my partner in the conversation here and there. Like tell them something funny he said or were you two have been together or whatever. If that doesn’t work tell them you’re into girls instead lol.
Yeah happened once, turned i to a ldr
Didn’t work out, but in this situation she was very explicit in her attraction to me so there was no room for confusion
Guys don’t make fun of me, but I met this girl in a Fortnite lobby. Yeah I know it’s weird BUT, we pretty much got to know each other outside of Fortnite. We added each other on snap chat and talked more there. We’d video call mostly and game with each other a lot. However a month later I caught feelings for her and didn’t say anything until like 8 months later. She was shocked. Very shocked. However, it didn’t affect us as friends and still doesn’t now.