He comes too fast during intercourse but not otherwise

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1. Vaginal simply feels better for him and or turns him on more.

   > Is there any solution?

   Yea. Instead of framing it as a “struggle” needing a solution, use creative thinking to align his timing better with yours and place intercourse in a larger context of other forms of stimulation, where his popping quickly is no longer a problem.

2. Just so you know, 5 minutes is super normal amount of time and has been found to be right [about the average during studies](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravaginal_ejaculation_latency_time). That being said, the ideal time is the amount of time that both partners want. Have you spoken to him about it? Does he wish he could last longer, or just you? Has he tried edging? What about masturbating before you begin so his second round with you is longer?

   As a side note, my SO lasts longer with everything other than PiV as well. I’d wager that that’s not uncommon.

3. He is perfectly normal.

   Can you try going multiple rounds? If you’re lucky he might be able to fuck you, orgasm, then use a dildo or his fingers on you, make you cum and then be ready to go again

4. Some guys just can’t get off with oral/handjob, it has to be just right. But once inside, its game over. When I was younger i was a two-pump chump for my first round, but with oral it took quite a while until I found a partner that was *fucking amazing* at giving head and could drain me in a minute. You may have to ask specific questions, like “You say I’m doing everything right but is there something I’m doing that you like better than something else?”. Constant tempo, no teeth, and lots of head play are important for me