I have been ghosting potential friends, new friends, and potential partners for a very long time. I’m very bland/dry in conversations, especially in texting (no one’s ever told me that, but I do get the idea that I’m not contributing much etc.) I really love being around people- even if I don’t talk much, I love being involved in the moment and social activities, but I don’t have basic conversational skills to keep talking after a few sentences.
The problem is, even if I want to improve on talking, I get 2 doubts in my head– one that I’m being an embarassing tryhard, or two I’m dragging on the already dry convo and the other person probably wants to leave. I’m gonna leave for college in a few days, and I don’t want to be the “quiet and lonely kid who doesn’t talk to anyone” again 😬
Any tips on how to overcome my doubts and improve myself?
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Be honest with people. Be open about the fact you have social anxiety, struggle with conversations, but that you enjoyed spending time with them.