My husband (40’s) says he doesn’t feel like he’s losing testosterone (and I believe our Dr has checked this) but it sure seems like his libido is down. Now outside two times where he had drank way too much (and was soo embarrassed), he has always been able to get it up but I’m wondering if medication might not help (even though he thinks there is no problem). I’m older than he is by a few years and wish our once a week was more like daily. I gave him a bj last night (purposely doing so for it to be all about him as I’m on my period and was horny but just didn’t want to deal with the mess) and he got hard immediately but also came in a couple minutes) I asked him later if when he told me he was about to cum, if that was to let me know (I usually swallow but he always gives me the choice) or if he was trying to tell me to change it up so it would last longer and he swore he was ready to finish. I just want to keep it satisfying for both of us.
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Get his free testosterone levels checked. If those are in the normal range make sure his estrogen is also in proper range (estrogen actually helps maintain erections).
He may need to supplement with testosterone or estrogen. I recommend “Greg Doucette” on YouTube for advice on how to inject testosterone etc.
I have taken Cialis and Viagra but purely for entertainment not as a necessity. Either works well but I prefer the feeling of Cialis. It’s less aggressive.
I (M65) finally got my hormones straight a few months ago. injections couldn’t do it for me, I wound up with pellets implanted just under the skin. It took about two years to work it all out. That’s when I found out I had ED as well. I have tried both Viagra and Cialis and prefer Cialis just for the timing aspect (you are good to go 24/7 as opposed to Viagra which has a three or four hour window). Viagra makes the head of my dick exquisitely sensitive which is wonderful. both are great for erections.
Also if you get the dosage too high for either Viagra or Cialis you won’t be able to cum. But you can play with the dose and find the right level.
A widely known side effect of Cialis but which is not on the label is pretty severe pain in the upper legs for about two weeks. Eventually that passes and everything is fine.
I started needing it when I was 35, but probably different circumstances. I’m trans and started transitioning at 33, my T had basically been 0 for 2 years when I started having ED problems. Cialis works great, 2 years of it doing its job.
It doesn’t hurt to get blood work done and check for hormone levels. Just have him ask his doctor.
ED meds aren’t going to help with his libido. I wouldn’t mess with testosterone unless he absolutely has to, the side effects can be quite bad. It’ll help if you talk to him about having sex more often and discuss some things that would get him in the mood.
Penises have a harder time getting erect as men get older. Plus they are fickle as hell (penises). I believe we should normalize soft penises, because it’s a hell of a lot of pressure to be hard all the time. Intercourse is not the only option for sex. It’s one of MANY.
My husband is approaching 40 and he cuts a 10mg Cialis pill in quarters when we’re planning some fun over the weekend. 1/4 of that pill on a Friday evening and he’ll be hard on a Sunday night.
Truthfully he can still get it up without the meds if we have enough foreplay, but it’s a lot more work for me, and if he does lose his erection, it can be a lot of work to get it back.