I found her account on Reddit and she doesn’t know I know. She misinterprets my constructive criticism of her body as insults. Some are even nudes. What can I do? I never thought my wife as a cheater.

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  1. Screen shot all the posts and pictures and tomorrow once she gets off work hand them to her or put them on the table so she walks in and find them and say hand me your phone right now and all your passwords or it’s over

  3. Lol lemme get this straight. You body shame your wife and generally make her feel like crap (instead of helping her in a positive, supportive way) then you get mad that she’s turning to strangers to boost her self esteem?

    Idk maybe try being nice. Maybe try helping her. Maybe be a good husband and empathetic person.

  5. I might stop short at cheating. Posting pictures to help boost her self-esteem wouldn’t constitute cheating imo. Flirting and talking with the commenters might. I think the real issue is a break down in communication. Which sounds like both of you are terrible at it. I don’t see a problem asking about this new discovery but I wouldn’t blow up about it. Sit her down and talk with her about it. LISTEN to what she has to say. Don’t argue her feelings try to understand them. Don’t shame, belittle or criticize her feelings. We can only control our actions not our feelings. Best of luck to you both.

  7. I don’t think posting photos is cheating. A breach of trust yes, if you have that boundary. Not cheating though.

    No constructive criticism of someone’s body is constructive. You can talk about health and gaining muscle or loosing weight.

  8. What does she need constructive criticism of her body for? Your job is to enjoy her body and let her know that.

  12. Constructive criticism of your partner’s body? Why on earth.

    Fair to not want your partner to post nudes, but frankly you’ve obviously damaged her self esteem to the point that she needs outside validation. Can you not see how sad it is that she feels so damaged and invalidated by you that she feels the only way to know if her body is okay is to get other stranger’s opinions? You should be responding with empathy and correcting your crappy behaviour. As her partner you should be protecting, loving, and safe guarding her esteem, not ‘constructively criticising’ her body and undermining the safety that might have been in your relationship and the way you should perceive her.

    Men do better. Or at least just hit the bare minimum of decency towards women’s bodies. And also, why do you choose a woman, marry her, then decide that this person you’ve most intimately chosen may be most intimately violated and disrespected. Frankly, its just a poor reflection upon you.

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    also… let’s just be real: Why do I get the impression that if she did the same to some of your say, the length of your male parts, maybe you wouldn’t be able to take the constructive criticism?

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