[28MF] interested in anal?

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1. Take ur time and use lots of lube… Forget about the numbing creams,
   Start w fingers while u eat her out, get a plug and she can wear while you have piv sex, or throughout the day in preparation… Go slow, let her dictate the pace n pressure, use lots of lube, if u want to keep doing it, go slow 👊🏼

2. We tried to “prepare” for a while. But I really never like the toys or the fingers. just felt weird and strange to me and led me to “tighten up,” which made it painful and unenjoyable. Eventually I just said, “Fuck it. Fuck it!” We went very slowly, little by little, and it worked pretty well. Still have never enjoyed anything in my ass but his dick. That’s an atypical experience, I gather, but… fyi.

3. Don’t use numbing gels. If it hurts, she needs to be more relaxed. Go slower, more lube, less pressure, more patience. The numbing gels make it harder for her to know if something is wrong which risks more significant injuries.

   Using butt plugs and other toys can help. Use real toys and not household items, things with flared bases so you don’t have to go to the hospital to get something out. Let her control them so she can go at her own pace. It takes practice.

   Don’t get mad about me saying this; you will learn a lot about the experience if you try toys and such on yourself. Almost everyone has a butthole. It may also make her more relaxed to know that you know how sensitive it is and how to avoid making it feel bad.

   If you don’t want to deal with toy cleanup, put them in condoms.

   The porn stars are pros. They have practice. They do a lot of prep off camera and the challenges are edited out.

4. Typically you can buy an “anal training” kit from most sex stores, that would include ateast 3 butt plug of increasing size. Being able to comfortably take one fully in would be a sign to go to the next one in the set. Once comfortable with the final one you would probably be good and prepared.

   Don’t use numbing gel, use lots of lube. The key to anal is to relax so it can more easily enter but you need to keep the feeling as you can hurt yourself if you push too hard in the wrong direction. Discomfort can be normal but pain means either your not going in the right direction or you don’t have enough lube.

   Go slow, the prep process could take like a month or more to get use to the larger plugs. When it comes time to actually do it, make sure you start slow and ramp up your speed gradually

5. With my (37) wife (37) it started with just the tip of a finger during oral, then more finger, then a couple of them. This was all at her request. Eventually, she wanted to try my dick, which is average size. At first she barely let me get the head in, after a few months (we didn’t try every time we had sex) she could take all of it.

   Lube is also the key. Lots of it.

6. I think the advice you have been given is sound. Train her arse with fingers, butt plug and tongue. Don’t rush penetration and maybe even don’t push that too soon. Also if you are endowed in girth this can be even more tricky to add a finger at a time and talk to her to see how it feels