So I’ve been in a relationship with my girl for 4 years. We were both virgins. At first she was eager to have vanilla sex.
I’m gonna describe some things about her.
She’s very shy and doesn’t like oral (giving or receiving).
When we have sex I’ve tried to ask her about what she likes, what are her turn ons etc but I would receive the same answer… Just vanilla sex. She would rather please me and gets turned on by hearing me or giving me an orgasm. Meanwhile what ever position it’s fine by her.
And I love that, not gonna lie but I’d love to eat her out, and do stuff to make her orgasm even though she has orgasms when she rides me.
What I’m trying to say is that I’d love to become her toy sometimes, but she is not into that.
What is your advice? I love her and would love to find a way to please her the way she pleases me.
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Be honest with her. Tell her what you want and listen at what she wants, but you also need to be prepared to receive no for an answer, people are in their right to refuse to do stuff but you need to be clear first.
Since she seems to enjoy pleasing you, just talk to her about trying something that you will enjoy. If she agrees to it, make sure to take it slow as you may make her uncomfortable just diving into and end up with her not wanting to try it again
Tell her that as much as she enjoys giving you pressure, you also want to enjoy giving her pressure. Just like she likes being your toy, tell her you want to be her toy as well.
If you want to go down on her… Start slow. One day, only focus on giving her a hand job.
Here’s my play book.
1. Start kissing
2. Slowly remove one item of clothing.
3. More kissing.
4. Another item of clothing.
5. Repeat above till only underwear is left.
6. LaY her down on the bed.
7. Continue kissing her.
8. Now move to her bra and fondle her breasts.
9. Remove bra.
10. Start kissing her breasts, do NOT go straight for nipple
11. Kiss all around both breasts and leave nipples for absolute last.
12. While kissing one breast, use hand to gently caress other.
13. Once you finally arrive at nipples, kiss, gentle bite, gentle sucking… Head south.
14. Kiss, caress, every square inch of the real estate on your way south.
15. When you arrive at panties, DO NOT TOUCH said panties.
16. Legs time! Repeat step 14 on her legs.
17. While kissing one leg, caress the other.
18. Some gentle focus on inner thighs. Be careful some girls are ticklish here.
( BE MINDFUL OF HER BODY’S REACTIONS IN ALL STEPS ABOVE. How she reacts will tell you if she likes/dislikes something. Proceed/repeat accordingly )
19. Once you are done with her legs, now start heading north again to the promised land.
20. This is your choice depending on circumstances, but here I’d roll her over and caress/kiss the back of her thighs making my way to her ass. ( Panties are still on here )
21. If you didn’t flip her over and have arrived over her panties, some nice warm breaths right over her vagina will tingle her lady bits. Kisses over the panties will be welcomed.
22. Now for the glorious slow panty removal.
23. With her legs slightly raised from panty removal, start kissing her inner things an caressing on your way down to her pussy.
24. Now my friend, you are in uncharted territory. Will she let you kiss her lady bits?
PLEASE LET US KNOW!
Yesterday we talked and I say it was a great talk, like some things got cleared out, some others remained the same but definitely I learned more things about her.
-She really loves to be my doll.
-She feels like she can’t control herself whenever I go down on her because she starts laughing and and feeling all kinds of emotions and felt like she was going to pee herself. I told her it was normal and that we could try to go all the way and see if she likes it or not and that what she felt might be the squirt which I’m totally into.
-She reassured me that every position we tried she was into it. Because she likes me having control and giving her orgasms through sex.
She still doesn’t wanr to give head and I respect that but at least I get to give her head and I love it.
Thank you for the advice everyone and I’ll keep you updated with tonight’s sex.