42m, married 11 years. I’m good with foreplay and really enjoy it but I feel like it gets repetitive and predictable and the excitement isn’t there a much. Almost everytime, she gets into bed, already undressed, I get on top and kiss her, then her neck and ears. Then I started feeling around her breasts and nipples and then use my mouth while starting to move my hand down to her thighs. Eventually I make my way there and start fingering and kissing and licking while still using my hands on her breasts. She’s aroused, and I go down on her for a good 10-15 minutes and she usually cums. Then usually right after this is sex or she might turn me over to play with me, not often though.
This all is good, but it’s routine. I really don’t know how to change things up. I’ve one in a while tried changing the order, or standing her up on the wall pushing her hands up. I also would want her to be on top of me while I suck on her nipples or she rubs her pussy on my face. These ideas come to me. I just want to be more exciting and keep her guessing instead of expecting. She likes it when I take control but she also likes to direct.
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TOYS!!!!!!!!!!
Random thoughts:
* Take turns leading.
* Include toys during foreplay.
* Include a blindfold (take turns).
* Get foreplay going much earlier in the day with sexy comments/messages.
* Roleplay scenarios. Possibly dress up.
* 69
* “Order” her to do some of the things on your wishlist (obviously keeping consent in mind), like to get on your face, or get on top, whatever.
* Watch/read/listen to sexual content together.
* Get those sex dice that suggest things to do to different body parts. Or play a different game. I’ve seen one that had little cards with suggestions.
* Work through a sex workbook. There’s also things like the 30 day challenge.
* Try massage. For both of you.
start the foreplay earlier in another room. oral on the back deck is our go-to move to change it up.
Edging.
Orgasm control.
Just lately we have started mixing it up by having her get off grinding on my dick in cowgirl. This is something we would normally do for a short time but not all the way to orgasm.
There are a lot of variations we have in mind such as having her grab my dick and using it like a vibrator to get her clit off. They are all variations on the theme of a mutual masturbation type of activity rather than just me giving her head to get her off.
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