I (18f) am stressed about having sex. For background I once got super drunk and took a guy home but it really didn’t work well, it’s also was both of ours first time. The thing is that it couldn’t get in. We tried and tried but just couldn’t and gave up. Now a few months later I am talking to a guy and we are starting to talk about sex (he has much more experience than I do), but even tho I don’t show it I am nervous for it to happen again now with him. I know that this is normal but I’m still anxious about it. Are there any tips to help getting it in or..?
Update: thanks for all of the replies! I talked to him about it and was very chill about it and understood, so all is fine now 🙂
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Lube maybe?
Foreplay (for you). You’re supposed to be aroused before just jamming it in there
The more anxious you are the harder its gonna be. You need to be able to relax and be comfortable. Try lots of foreplay.
Tell the guy it’s your first-ish time so he doesnt try to rush it. You can tell him you’re anxious so he can help calm you down and make you comfy at the time.
You can try a lot of lube too if you’re still worried after all the foreplay.
Lube is a saviour, or ask him to do fingering
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