So my (m24) gf (f21) have been dating for a little over a year now. The sex is absolutely amazing and continues to be! And she agrees cause she told me that I’m the best sexual partner she’s had. We are both in love with each other. However, she seems to have a harder time getting wet then what I consider “normal”. We use lube every single time we have sex because she says it’s pulling too much. I’m not complaining because lube feels amazing I’m just wondering if she has a hard time getting wet because of me or if this is a normal occurrence with women. I’m kind of ignorant when it comes to female anatomy so someone please tell me if I’m worrying too much haha. Thank you!
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Some people are wetter and some people are more dry. If your communication is good and you’re definitely doing everything you should be to get her turned on and warmed up, I’d just take her at her word.
My birth control makes me dryer.
It’s normal for some women. It might be a good idea to check in and see if there is anything else she wants you to try. Or do. Any fantasies or kinks.
Don’t frame it as “you don’t get very wet and I want to make sure I’m doing things right”. It might make her self conscious. Just ask generally-speaking to make sure she is happy with everything or if she wants to try some new things
Nothing a nice long pooner snack can’t fix
I also struggle with dryness; lube is the way!
It’s common for vulvas to vary in wetness and texture. Pretty often with women, we see a disconnect in genital response and mental arousal/pleasure. It’s called genital nonconcordance. So she may be really turned on, but her vulva doesn’t register the arousal for whatever reason and won’t get wet and erect(the clit gets erect like the penis).
It’s probably not to do with you, and maybe it’s normal for her. As long as you use lube to make it easier for the two of you, I don’t see a problem. Have fun!
Hormonal for me but if a dick is angled at my anterior wall, where my clit is, it’s like a lubricant button lol. Check out clitoral anatomy for reference. It extends past the visible part.
Lubeeeeeee
I also sometimes have a hard time getting or staying wet. My birth control doesn’t help. It has nothing to do with my partner. It’s just hormones and everything. We use lube almost every time.
Also, allergy pills can make you dry up. If she takes those also
I wouldn’t read to much into it. I’ve been with my husband since I was a teen and I was super wet all the time. But after we got married and I had my daughter, it’s harder for me to get soaking wet like I use to. I find my husband extremely attract still and I still get turned on by him just they same as when we were teens, but I longer get wet really unless he fingers me and makes me squirt, which he is fine with because he loves making me squirt. Do what works for y’all and if your comfortable with it.