When I’m bored, I sometimes use sexual fantasies to distract myself. I’m not sure if it’s a healthy coping mechanism, but I haven’t rub over anyone yet so I’ll say it’s not that bad.
I’ve been like this since my late teens, but when I got into my first relationship in my early 20s, well, I’ve wondered if it’s weird I couldn’t think of anything sexy when I was in front of my naked partner?
He was just there, do I have to think about anything or just do what I know, follow the sex routine?
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Don’t think of anything sexy. Just be present and have fun.
How is your self confidence? Do you feel comfortable with your body? Do you feel sexy and desirable?
I know when I have been through periods of stress, anxiety, or depression, it can be a challenge to stay mentally engaged during intimacy.
And when you read or listen to erotic stories, do you find you are more turned on by stories where the woman (or you?) is dominant, or does she/you tend to be submissive in those fantasies?
Do you picture yourself seducing someone, or are you usuallt being taken by a confident and dominant man?
Have you ever read about disassociation? Does it sound familiar at all?
https://www.thecouplescenter.org/dissociation-during-sex-signs-symptoms-treatment/