I am a 29M I ve never had sex, well I used to masturbate a lot, like 1 or 2 a week but lately I just do it once in a while maybe in a month, Today I had an opportunity to have sex, we were making out for so long like 2h after that she just touched me with her tongue on it and I came, after that I tried to get it inside her but it wasn’t hard enough, I felt so ashamed wished I just disappeared, I like the girl so much and don’t want to lose her, she told me that I shouldn’t worry and it may happen if I am nervous, but I feel like I won’t never be able to.do it, I feel like I am done, I am just lost
Don’t want to lose her but she also needs her pleasure, yeah I gave her some orgasms without penetration.
PS: after that I tried just to masturbate to see if it is just a matter of masturbation, but didn’t get so hard as it used to, I also used to get it so hard doing nothing when I woke up early.
If there is any hope or any advice someone can give it to me, or it is something I need to live with.
I really feel so lost 😪
3 comments
Just talk to her… Sounds like she’s understanding.
1-2 times per week is not a lot at all…. maybe you don’t want to hear it but my advice is to start masturbating daily and I bet you will last a lot longer with your girl
also stop beating yourself up cause she will sense that and all it will lead to is her ditching you. pity parties are no fun
You’re psyching yourself out because you’re overthinking. It’s not unusual to cum quickly when you’ve never had sex and being nervous and mentally stressed out can be a reason for you not getting hard enough
Talk to her and explain the situation. She seems to be understanding and will help you overcome this problem so you two can finally get it on properly