So, recently I’ve been improving my social life online a lot. I’ve been very chatty and open online with others, and I enjoy conversating and talking about whatever. But it just hasn’t translated to real life yet, ultimately I think I’m quite a shy extrovert when conversating face-to-face; and I always have trouble approaching others without being scared. How do I approach a group of people without seeming weird? And do yall have any tips on how to deal with social shyness? Thanks.
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This is definitely a tough one. It’s funny because I’ve done it a good number of times in the past, more so in college, a couple times more recently, but I for me, I’ve always felt that either 1)I had to be in the right social mindset for it (aka already “warmed up” if that makes sense), 2) there was already that expectation (example: you join a meetup group), or 3)I just straight up talked/guilted myself into taking the dive. Looking back, almost all the times I did, it was a positive outcome. But yeah, it’s definitely nerve-racking, even now.
As far as practical advice, if it’s not specifically a situation where new people are expected (see meetup example, or mingling at a party), the one thing that did help a bit was to look for an opening in conversation, AKA a tidbit you could contribute.