retrospectively: how did having your “first time” change your personality in the months afterwards?

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1. It didn’t

2. Honestly, I became super disinterested in sex. I was just like “Oh. So this is how it’s like?”

3. Not really

4. I lost my virginity pretty late, so I think it just made me stop worrying about it. I used to wonder why it hadn’t happened yet. I’m not sure if my personality changed that much because of it, but I also found it pretty underwhelming and found that I don’t really get much out of dating, so I’m not surprised that I lost it later than most people.

5. Nope. It just confirmed that sex felt good, and by all accounts would get a lot better.

6. It didn’t. It’s just a “well that happened. Anyways”

7. I feel like I had unlocked a treasure chest of possibilities. That feeling has long since expired…

8. It didn’t change anything because I was disappointed with how I had my first time. In the moment it was no different than handling myself because it was just “let’s have sex” with a girl that was a friend of mine’s friend.

   We had no connection before and never did again.

9. It made me not want to pursue anything physical really. I have to care about you to want you and that just doesn’t happen. I don’t care about sex I care about heart and if you’re a good person.

10. It didn’t.

11. It really wasn’t that big a deal.

12. It didn’t. It shouldn’t

13. Well didn’t have sex till 23 and after for the first few months I wanted more. After that I calmed down

14. I was raised very religiously. And at the time was going through a lot with my family. And this girl wanted me so badly. And I so badly didn’t want to be tormented anymore. I was 25.

    I first thing I did was laugh. I was so relieved. I couldn’t believe what the big deal was. And how awesome it felt. It really felt like a huge weight was lifted off me.

    Then I learned the other side of sex. How it changes HER expectations and treatment of you.

    Oh yes. Learned indeed.

15. I don’t think it did?