The last couple of nights, my boyfriend has not called me before going to bed. I notice I have always been calling him every night. So I’m gonna let him call me the same, which he has not. And then a couple days ago he was over life and things that he’s just in a phase. A few weeks ago, I mentioned to him we’ll be visiting my brother out of town for thanksgiving. I asked if he wants to come. He says he always celebrate Thanksgiving with his family. But then a couple months before, he was telling me we should figure out how to split time for both families on the holidays.
I almost feel like I shouldn’t go to his family’s birthday party this weekend. I always go to his family events. And honestly I just don’t know what to do when I’m there. Should I say I’m not feeling too good so I don’t have to go?
Tl:dr- Few days ago, my boyfriend was in a “phase” of being over life. He has been making time for his friends and coworkers. But hasn’t made the time to call me every night or spend time with just me. It makes me not want to go with him to his family party, because that’s the only time that we actually “spend time together” this week. Should I just not go with him tomorrow?
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Have you told him how you feel?
You’re conflating a couple different things:
1) Your BF isn’t putting in daily effort for acts of affection and attention that you expect.
2) You originally discussed holidays and he appears to be changing his tune to what he’s willing to commit.
3) You aren’t interested in going to his family birthday party.
Might be time for a general, “where is this relationship going” check in. If he’s not that invested, then don’t bother going with him to things that don’t interest you.