As the title says, I recently got involved with a guy (26m). I enjoy his company, and he has gotten me off every time we meet, but he seems to have trouble finishing and staying hard with a condom on.
He said that the condom takes away a lot of sensation and that’s why it’s difficult for him. He stays hard for a while, but after some time the combination of me being wet and the condom makes it hard for him to feel anything. Most of the time he finishes by using his hands.
Is there anything I can do to help this except getting on birth control? Cause even if I did, I’d still have more peace of mind if we used condoms as well. We’ve tried different brands and sizes but the problem doesn’t go away. I just wish he could enjoy things more and I guess I feel guilty that he always has to finish with his hands? He’s never pressured me into letting him do it raw or anything like that, but this is really slowing us down. I’m gonna see him again this week, so any suggestions?
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Not sure if he’s lying to you. Although birth control isn’t the worst way to go, I did that
Try extra sensitive condoms with plenty of lube. It takes a while to get used to the sensation. Condoms help the guy last long by reducing the sensation. You can try exciting him in other ways like kissing, bj etc. Eventually he’ll learn his way with the condoms. Practice is all it takes.
Have you already tried non latex/latex free condoms? Those are supposedly better at conducting heat which gives a more natural feel for the guy. They are a bit more expensive but it might be worth a try.
Given everything you said there’s no reason to suspect he’s lying. After not using condoms for a long time I can say they definitely make sex a lot worse.
If you don’t want BC, you could definitely lick his balls or do more oral while he’s finishing himself. That should improve his orgasm.
This is honestly just the realities of using a condom for men. Something that might help is maybe to get him a fleshlight or stroker so that there is no chance of death-grip being an issue. Additionally he could practice fucking it with a condom on. Another thing to try is to ask him not to cum for a couple of days before seeing you. When I broke up with my ex, and had to start using condoms for casual sex, it was a process to learn to forget how much better sex is without a condom.
Has he tried not masterbsting for a week or two? You could also finish him off with your own hands and mouth (if sti’s aren’t a concern).
Put aside the condom issue for a while. After you orgasm, I would try following up with giving him a hj/bj combo. And tell him he can choose where he cums, e.g. in your mouth, on face or boobs. That should do it.
Have you tried [Natural LambSkin Condoms](https://www.amazon.com/Trojan-NaturaLamb-Latex-Luxury-Condoms/dp/B00014UKJG)? – they are, by far, the most comfortable and the ones that let heat flow between the genitals.
Please be advised that they provide a bit less STD protection (although much more than using nothing) than synthetic condoms and cannot be used with numbing creams.
it’s probably psychological.
He should take kamagra or viagra the next 3/5 times.
This will help him to solve this blockage.
I have heard this several times and it has helped every time.