The day i got into a relationship with her, My partner [F, 25yrs old] warned me[M, 23] that she was with another man [age unknown but he’s married, not living with her wife] who’s financially helping her (and they spend together when she feels like it/or him).
I overlooked this and I said okay. My love gradually grew for her while she already kinda loved me in the beginning. She was calling me Everytime, said she wanna meet me, etc but because of work, I kinda negliged her and shes lost the habit the process.
Now I’m the one who’s “in love”. I always find time to call her, I always text her etc. And the byproduct if this is that now I’m starting to get jealous and I rant about the other man.
I don’t even know what kind of advice I want. But I love her. Now Everytime something happens I immediately think about the other dude and I feel like my heart is exploding.
She’s the kind of girl to be very direct and when she’s not “lovey lova”, she can be harsh because of it.
I don’t think she understands how much this is hurting me(yeah I know, she told me about the situation). And she told me she almost put an end to our relationship because I talk (indirectly) about the other guy and this make her angry.
She’s been avoiding relationships for this reason but really clicked on me.
I need advice, I need people who can understand what I’m going through.
What should I do, is there a future to this? How can I get her for me alone? I can’t help her the way the man does.
Edit: typo
Edit: we’re not in the US, it’s kinda difficult to find good jobs were we live of you don’t have “contacts”
## TL;DR: my girl was with another man before I got with her. She told me that the first day of dating but now it’s starting to hurt me. Is there a future to this?
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this is a disaster bro. not only is she not leaving this guy for you, the dude is also married!!
you really want to date a woman who’s willing to destroy someone’s marriage?
>she told me she almost put an end to our relationship because I talk (indirectly) about the other guy and this make her angry.
“Hey, it makes me angry when you talk about me stealing cars all the time, makes me feel like stealing cars is wrong and I shouldn’t be doing it… So can you stop bringing up how often I steal cars?”
Seriously my dude why are you even bothering with this woman?
Someone who will cheat *with* you will not hesitate to cheat *on* you.
Mate, you need to wake up. This means
“but he’s married, not living with her wife] who’s financially helping her”
you are in a relationship with a sugar baby. You will never be her priority bro.
If your not comfortable with the situation end it. You knowingly entered into a relationship with a sex worker. No matter how you label it that is the reality.
No future here…. If she loves you she would of left him…. If the only reason she is with him is for the money… then money is clearly more important to her than love
Dude what even is this “relationship.” None of this makes any sense. It’s a total trash fire.
Get out of this.