SOOOO… I am dating my parents very good friend’s daughter who is 24, (im 32).
Backstory: I recently moved back home after being away for almost ten years. After moving back home, I went to a friends house for a party and I ran into my now GF who I haven’t seen since I moved away. We began talking, met for lunch and met more and more until we just started dating and made it secretly official. I MUST POINT OUT that we NEVER had any relationship prior to this. Never interacted with her when I was younger before I moved away… I was a too-stool-for-cool-teenager, she was a bratty little girl. So please dont come at me with you predatory accusations. Anyway, we have been secretly dating for weeks for the obvious reasons. Our age difference, and how it may affect our parents relationship who are very closer friends.
Very recently, she told me that her youngest brother (12) found out about us after seeing photos of us that she had on her phone. Now he is in on our secret and this kid who doesn’t even know who I am cus he was nearly a toddler when I moved away.
I feel like this is going to start complicating our relationship. I feel very guilty that this kid is keeping this big of a secret from his parents even though he agreed to keep it to himself. I feel like we need to come clean to our parents but she absolutely does not want to.
I really do not want to break up with her. She has been the best part of me moving back home (which I was not really looking forward to). I am in no way looking to settle down with her in any way in the near or distant future. We really like eachother and want us to continue but we are mortified about what may happen once we spill the beans.
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If you claim to like her so much, then don’t burden that kid with keeping this secret. Come out in the open, tell your friend and his wife and take the consequences. You’re both adults so even if they’re against it, all they can do is end the friendship and be upset about it.
If you’re not willing to risk the friendship, then sounds like you’re just not that into her.