I’m [25f] not sure what I am doing wrong. When I talk to people, I give compliments, ask questions and am a good listener. But ever since I started a new job 6 months ago with alot of people 5-10+ older than me, I feel like I’m never noticed, or people don’t want to talk to me or get to know me and only connect when they need something. I’ve already been missed on huge emails chains 4-5 times, and it’s hard not to take that personally for “fun” or “FYI” type emails across the entire team. Like, how am I getting missed on these things? It makes me feel like I need to change jobs…Do people just not recognize me?
Same with friends. I’m in a weird place in life where I can’t rely on my current friends right now bc they all have significant others and don’t have time to hang anymore. I am always the one initiating and things always flake. Is there something wrong with me? Is it because I look like a child? (I’m really short and skinny, but I don’t think i look bad?).
How do I become more likeable, recognized and make friends?
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Shitty. Maybe try and see a therapist, we don’t know all the details so it’s hard to say, but if you’re a short, skinny 25 year old female then there’s a chance that you’re just attractive, and that can be intimidating, or maybe you’re coming off as too desperate to make friends/be likeable… or you’re a cunt, who knows really.
I had problems making new friends and I thought it was because I was unlikeable, until I talked to a therapist who told me that I can come off as unapproachable and/or intimidating. Helped a lot, I still find myself in crowds that I don’t mesh well with though, bound to happen… So maybe your coworkers are just lame. Who knows. Like I said though, maybe seek a therapist if it’s something you’re struggling with.
You don’t have to be emo and depressed to seek therapy, if you have a problem that bothers you and you can’t seem to fix it then seek some help. No shame in that.
Just make sure it’s not one of those therapists that just affirms all your feelings and tells you you’re perfect the way you are. Good luck.