This is a throwaway acc and some details are changed, but in general this is the situation:
Me and my gf have been together for 2 years now and everything have been so great apart from the past few months. we havent really had any big problems/fights in the relationship, but when we do, we always talk about it and resolve the issue without fights and pettyness.
The problem is her brother(18M) has some pretty serious mental health issues (suicidal, self harm etc.). They are very close and dependent on each other. This makes it so whenever we are together she only stresses about him and becomes fatigued. The brother is also autistic and doest like to hang out with all three of us, so thats also not an option.
Its just this win/lose situation no matter what where either: 1. shes not with him and she becomes fatigued/stressed. 2. Gf stays at home and i miss her. 3. we all three hang out and me and gf cant be romantic, and brother doesnt really enjoy it.
I hate seeing her like this, she is always tired and stressed and doesnt have energy for anything. I suggested treating it like a long distance relationship so she can be more at home, but she doesn’t want that. So i just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place
Its been a little more difficult lately and we have been wondering if we should break up because of how much of the relationship is about planning around/with gfs’ brother.
I have been wondering what do and i just dont know anymore, so i went to this sub as a last resort. If you read this far, thank you so much
TLDR;
Me and gf are forced to plan aroud her brother because of his mental helth issues and autism. And its tearing the relationship apart so we wonder if we should break up or any tips on how to help the situation.