This is my first post here. I was going to post this in another ask reddit but I wasn’t sure if it would be against their rules so I put it here. Please let me know if there’s any rules I may have missed. I was really hoping to get some clarity on something that happened that still upsets me and has been effecting my sexuality.

The last time my now ex (male ) and I (female) had sex was after I had a surgery. I had healed and it was a couple months post but because of the surgery and the the condition it was for I had vaginal bleeding for a while. The bleeding had stopped but I still had brownish discharge, my ex understood this or so I thought, they knew I was already struggling and understood that it was happening and why it was happening and wore a condom.

However right after they said that I had covered him in “brown shit” and was grossed out and ran to shower. I dont remember the exact words but they were clearly incredibly disgusted by my discharge and it hurt then and now I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. It hurt me so much and now even months after I still feel hurt and feel so self conscious and feel like I’ll gross anyone out that I think I’ll just never have sex with anyone again.

Am I overreacting? Do people see discharge, especially discharge like this as gross? I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable sharing myself with another person again after this.

Thanks for reading stay safe out there.

3 comments
  1. Real men know that discharge is completely normal. Even light brown at times..every women with a cycle goes through it. You’re not gross or dirty.. hold your head high and try not to dwell on it❤️

  2. he sounds very immature. someone who cares about you, won’t care about that shit. it’s completely normal. all different kinds of discharge! red, pink, brown, white, clear. don’t even think about that guy anymore

  3. 🙄 hunny I accidentally pood on a guy and he cracked up and made us dinner…

    With my experience ONE of 3 was grossed out by discharge. My friend got ate out on her period. If this guy is a jerk many MANY others are not a jerk. Relax. It’s okay.

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