I’m a 14 year old female and I’ve been really interested in getting a sex toy recently and I came to the conclusion that I really want a butt plug or a vibrator. My best friend got a vibrator which I’ve tried and she asked her parents but I think that would be way too embarrassing for me to do. Am I too young to be thinking about getting one? If not how should I ask them? Any advice helps.

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  2. I’m 15F. No, you’re not too young to get a sex toy. I got my first at 13. As for asking your parents, would they be open-minded? If they are, then I’d ask them. If they’re understanding people, they’d know you’re embarrassed and they won’t judge you or shame you. Just be direct with them about it and be honest about it. I’d say it’d be better to ask your mom than your dad because she’d understand what it’s like being a 14-year-old girl. If not, then I’d ask a friend or other trusted person to help you get one.

  3. yes I’d say you are, if you get too used to sex toys from a young age especially vibrators your body will get too used to it and you won’t be able to get off without it in the future.

  5. No one should tell you that you’re too young unless they consider than 14 is too young to masturbate. . . Which is ridiculous since that’s the time when many people masturbate more than any other time and start thinking regularly about sex.

    One bit of advice though, use it as an aid sometimes, but make sure you also explore in other ways, especially with your hands. Going too hard or too regularly with a vibrator from an early age can desensitize you, which can be a significant factor in reducing sexual pleasure with a partner.

  8. I think you’re going to get fucked up replies and too many wrong ass answers here. I think you should either:

    1) Ask on a woman’s only board/forum/something where you know the vast majority are actually women, preferably mature women.

    2) If you’re lucky to have an loving older female mentor close relationship type in your life, you should have a heart to heart with her. Strictly based on what partners and female friends have told me, it’s not totally uncommon for younger girls/women to confide in mature women and seek personal intimacy advice.

    Hope this helps

  10. Youngsters tend to find something to use as a toy anyway. I am sure there are several duscussions about makeshift sex toys in Reddit.

    So, if they have a toy, they are not going to use what ever utensils. This is not an easy thing. I’d love the idea that my wife has used things for masturbation. But if I had a reason to think which tools or kitchen gadgets have been inside her or her family members, I would not exactly like it.

    At least, good quality sex toys don’t have sharp edges or such harmful features.

  11. Getting a vibrator at a young age allowed me to get used to penetration, which made losing my virginity an absolute breeze. Just switch it up and use your hands exclusively to masturbate at least some of the time (eg one session with the vibe, one session with hands only etc) so that you don’t get desensitised

  14. If you’re too ashamed to buy one yourself, then you’re too young to have one.

    Also: report any inappropriate messages you recieve in the DM.

  15. hi! im 20f and started discovering my sexuality at 16 but only bought my toys when i was 18 (bc i couldn’t use my parents’ card to buy stuff and i had a s/o then lol). i dont think you’re that young to do that but i do hope you start with something small first and that you’re 100% sure and safe. i had a bullet vibrator as my first because it was a) cheaper, b) easy to hide and c) fun to use. once you get bored of it, then you can go for the big guns! explore at your own pace though, these are just tips based from my experience.

    also, i never talked to my older sister nor my parents about stuff like this. however, if you think your relationship w ur parents / other relatives can withstand a talk like this (pref an older adult female), then go ahead and talk to them about it.

  17. I think you are too young for penetration toys. Don’t put anything inside! A vibrator is fine… being young and tolerating urges is very challenging. I waited until I was 19 to buy an actual toy and I was 17 when I had actual intercourse.

    Having a vibrator to get rid of the urges might make adolescence easier. Just my 2 cents.

  18. Getting a sex toy can help you fulfill your sexual cravings and desires and keep you from experimenting and having sex. Watching porn also helps curb the desire to have sex. Porn with masturbation kept me (40m) a virgin until the age of 23

  19. I wouldn’t worry about your parents or being shy. They know what sex is. And I have a daughter, she’s younger than you, but I would much rather her be masturbating than having sex. I’m probably more progressive than most but it can’t hurt to ask.

  21. isn’t the legal age like 15 in England? So it’s more of a culture shock to the average American regarding the age of your sexual adventures. You can have sex toys because you’re less likely to hurt yourself with things that aren’t meant to be in certain places. Teenagers are also wanting to have sex regardless if sex toys are used or not, and people need to know this. It’s really up to you if you’ll have sex, but if a sex toy can prevent you from having sex till you’re 18, then that’s all good.

    I know a lot of people don’t really wait till they’re 18… I know a kid who’s been having sex since she was 13, 3 years later she’s pregnant , and now I have to attend a baby shower in October. Her boyfriend also hits her as she’s pregnant, chokes her, wants to cheat on her, and they argue all the time. He’s two years older than her and 4 inches shorter. Don’t think being a lesbian or bi is any easier. Theres still blackmail, syphilis, hpv, abuse of all kinds, homophobic parents, and possibly ending up homeless.

    I mean, I’m not your brother , but ill give you the same advice I gave my little sister.

    “It’s ok if you explore, just don’t touch my vibrating toothbrush, gremlin. “

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