I (26F) have had feelings for my roommate (25m) for a while now, and I often wonder if he actually realises? We’re both quite attractive, we have so much in common, we hang out all the time and I believe we both have a lot of love for one another.
My feelings started after about 4 months living together and I thought it was so obvious that I was into him – but my other roommate probed him recently and believes he has absolutely no clue.
I have had other friends say to me that they believe everyone knows we’re in love with each other – except for us.
Obviously there are a lot of reasons I’m reluctant to say anything to him – it may scare him off, we live together, could ruin a great friendship, or frighteningly he mightn’t feel the same way back.
I just want to know from a male perspective what I should do?
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Men can be very clueless. Also, since you are roommates, he probably chalks up all of your hints/signals to just being overly familiar/friendly since you two live together. Men also think that it’s inappropriate to take advantage of a situation like that.
So, what you would need to do is either tell him directly that you are interested in being more than friends.
Or you can try and seduce him. Combine alcohol and some activity that requires physical touching (twister, arm wrestling, any excuse to touch each other). And you would wear something revealing. Thenyou ust sort of let things happen. H eshould get the hint, but you never know.
It’s not necessarily that men don’t get hints, it’s that they’re afraid of misinterpreting hints and being seen as creepy.
Maybe he gets your hints but fooling around with a roommate can go bad quick.