Every time I try to have sex I really can’t get it up. I jerk off a lot and personally I think it’s because I have too high standards.

Is there any way I can fix this problem and how?

Thank you for helping.

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  3. 16 you say. While i would not advice you to rush into having sex. This again varies from place to place but 16 seems too young for you to start the actual sex. I would have recommend you focus on masturbation. Ad yes [masturbation is your training ground](https://366hacks.wordpress.com/2022/08/01/powerful-male/)

    But then again let me get to address you Ed issue. I can see it! If you think you have a problem with erections, then [in the foreplay](https://366hacks.wordpress.com/2022/08/09/foreplay/) you are worrying about whether you’re going to get an erection. You are touching your partner with your mind on your penis; thinking ‘is it hard’, ‘when will it be hard’, ‘why isn’t it hard?’

    Worrying about your penis is not sexy and nobody can get aroused under pressure. ‘ED’ becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    I suggest during foreplay to take your mind if not actions completely from your penis and focus on pleasing her like [eating her pussy like a savage](https://366hacks.wordpress.com/2022/08/03/cunnilingus/)

    Remember penetration is usually the end of sex, not the beginning, and your partner does not get aroused just from penile penetration.

  4. Instead of playing games learn about women and what it takes to please them so you won’t be so stressed. Trust me learn to please a woman and you can use that knowledge to get a girl by explaining how her body works to her and what you will do to make sure she’s ready. Ready to orgasm. Don’t even talk about your pens and pleasure. Talk about hers.

  5. If you can masturbate, then you don’t have ED, you likely have performance anxiety. Probably a little too immature yet for sexual relationships.

  6. You don’t have ED. I know, I was the same way at your age. Thought something was wrong with me.

    What you are is in your own head and not genuinely comfortable. Few tips:

    1) Sex is important but it is not actually a Big Deal. It’s a way that people play together, and it’s best between people who have the bonds of close friendship and the hunger of desire. A good swirl of romance comes easily with both of those things. Sex is fun and should be as relaxed as any other kind of fun. You’re not performing, you’re playing.

    2) Watch less porn and hang out with good friends more. Comfort and familiarity with being relaxed and happy with people does a hell of a lot more for the success of your sex life than being isolated with onscreen fantasies.

    3) if you’re just not actually into him/her you can’t force yourself to be. The idea of having sex should never outweigh your choice of partner and your penis knows this. With the right person with the right comfort level you won’t be able to keep it down.

    Good luck!

  7. I used to have the same problem turns out it was severe anxiety…. didn’t figure it out till I talked to the dr and got some meds

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