I 25(M)have been with my gf 23(F) for 2 years. Recently I got curious watching porn and decided to try anal play on me. I ended really liking it and I want to try it again and maybe with my partner. But in an older discussion she said that if I liked to be fucked in the ads would make me less of a man to her eyes. So I’m here not sure what to do, about being open about it.
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That’s really too bad. There’s nothing “unmanly” about your biology. Your anus has nerve endings (a gajillion of them!) and your inner cavity has a prostrate and… well I don’t have to tell you, you know all this already! There’s also nothing “unmanly” about wanting to explore your sexuality and being open enough to try to new things and talk about it. Unfortunately, your girlfriend seems to be laboring under some unfortunate ideas of what “manly” is and isn’t…. It’s probably a matter of maturity. But then again, maybe not….
Manliness is an illusion that insecure people chase. Be honest with yourself about your wants, needs, and desires. If you feel like you are unable to communicate these things honestly and openly with your partner, then maybe she’s not for you, or she needs to grow up. You are both pretty young.
Aside from that, there is a lot of pleasure associated with anal play. It opens many doors, and I high recommend everyone try it a few times. Install a bidet to flush yourself out with. Keep wet wipes next to the bed if you don’t already.
Trying something new and liking it only broadens your experiences. Personally, I love when guys are comfortable and into ass play. It’s hot.
I don’t think it’s fair to yourself to deny something that brings you pleasure, and you for sure should not let anyone make you feel bad about it. If this is something you really want to move forward with, speak with her about it, maybe she didn’t believe it is a sexual act you would ever interested in. There is the chance that she genuinely may not be as open to it than you are however, so that is something you should be prepared for if you do decide to discuss it with her.
Your gf could probably benefit from dragging her perceptions about gender out of the early 90’s
I think you came to the point where it’s time to break up 🙂
Talk to her about it and tell her you want to explore it. If she judges you thinks you are less “manly” drop her and get someone with more progressive views on sex
Don’t you hate when the patriarchy ruins your good time?
Me too.
Don’t let it. Life is too short to worry about what’s manly and not. Like life’s too short to worry about every flaw on your body.
Plenty of us out here loving some anal fun anyway we can get it.
Your gf is an absolute fanny, then
How would she know about “manly”, she’s a woman bruv
She should get over her link shaming and stigmas related to anal play.
That’s a homophobic viewpoint
I would say “OK bye than.” And break up right there. Like I give a fuck if she thinks I’m man enough. If you don’t like it, bye Felicia!
Have her listen to this
https://peggingparadise.com/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/
There’s nothing more manly than enjoying anal pleasure, because only (biologically) men have a prostate. And what’s more manly than knowing what you want sexually and being open to it? You’re good my man, she’s the one with a problem.
Just revisit the conversation
Your girlfriend is ridiculous if she honestly believes that.
Tell her where you are at and what you want to try. If she is just not comfortable that is one thing. But if she belittles you or shames you then cut her loose.
I agree with her….
Unfortunately she isn’t going to change her mind from the sound of it man. But if you want to take the risk and ask her to peg you, go for it. She might say no and you might have to break up with her over it.
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Just incompatibility on ass
Sounds like she was fed a good old heap of patriarchy.
She doesn’t know what she’s talking about. You both are young. At that age I didn’t meet a man who would openly tell me that he’d like me to caress his ass. Or even give hints about it. Nada. It was all about PIV and oral + suggestions they would like to f my ass (which I responded that I’ll see about that after trying it on them first).
I decided to discover my butthole in my 30s because frankly I got bored and wanted to incorporate all kinds of toys I could find. It was kind of impossible not to buy a butt plug/ beads because they’re all over the internet and at a good price.
You could always explore it together. Just make sure she feels safe. Never push it.
My opinion is a guy who is getting off from anything being in his ass he is a little gay and I would feel the same way that she feels.
I’m not judging what your into and I would try to make sure you are enjoying it too. If you feel like you’re having problem enjoying your self then maybe she isn’t the right choice for you. The most important thing to me when getting into a certain kink you feel comfortable talking about it because communication is the key to exploring sexual wants and if you can express things openly about what you like or anything like that you don’t have to get anxious about speaking up for your wants
educate her first. secondly accept that it’s OK for her not to share your curiosity or likes for every thing. she has a right to feel however she wants . if you and her truly don’t want the same things then find a better match life is simple we make it difficult.
She’s a prude. There’s nothing unmanly about taking it in the ass. It’s a tough task to do. Let’s see how she fairs HAHAHAH. What about that phrase “take it like a man!”
It doesn’t make you GAY either unless you want a dick. If it’s still your own or your gfs finger, that’s not gay.
Wow your gf is part of the problem. Learn human anatomy. It’s a pleasurable experience for some and shouldn’t be a gendered thing. I’m a woman and I enjoy booty play too. It’s just a preference and interest thing. I couldn’t be with someone who thinks like that
I mean she is not wrong dawgg
She is so wrong! Butt play is normal especially with guys that’s where they get pleasure from!!
Personally I wouldn’t play with my husband ass myself, but if he wants something in there while we fuck I’m all for it. I do feel a little weird about it but I also know that it’s where the man’s g spot is so who am I to deprive him of that?!. Heck if he wants to meet up with someone who is open to do things to his ass that I’m a little uncomfortable doing myself then I’m all for it too
I think she worded it wrong. She might not like butt stuff. Personally, I (20F) do not like butt stuff at all. I’m not doing anal nor do I want to receive anal.