I (29f) generally do not worry about my sexual abilities. I’m totally ready to adjust to my partner’s preferences. My current partner (30m) is on anti-depressants. He said that he has trouble finishing, but it seems to depend on the situation. We had PIV sex last night, and he didn’t finish. I shrugged it off. Tonight, I gave him oral sex for 30 minutes. I couldn’t help but feel defeated/unattractive. Any advice for how to keep my spirits up?
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His orgasm is not your responsibility. When he says it is antidepressants trust that he knows what he is saying.
Your making this about you is counter productive and will make him feel even more pressure.
Don’t let your insecurities make this situation worse for everyone.
Understand that certain anti-depressants have that impact on performance. I took SSRIs once for test anxiety and lasted well over 45 minutes and when I did finish couldn’t tell I had done it. It’s absolutely not about you.
Anti-depressants can be a bitch when it comes to trying to achieve sexual pleasure. Don’t look down on yourself for it.
I’m not sure why so much emphasis is put on finishing.
Just the experience is incredibly satisfying. Learning that might take some time. But when you do it changes everything.
So I recently started taking a new antidepressant. I (56M) was worried that it would cause problems. And it did a little. My GF (55F) stayed with me this weekend. We had three sex sessions. I take 50mg of sildenafil before each for a more reliable boner. The first session was great; she had at least one orgasm. The session ended when I came during PiV. The second session a few hours later was also great, but I didn’t finish. She got off twice, I think. It’s not unusual for me to have trouble coming again in the same day.
The next morning, we had the third. It was amazing! The new vibrating g-spot wand was a big success. We cycled through all our favorite positions for an hour or so. I know she came four times. I was a little frustrated because I could tell she really wanted me to cum down her throat, and I really wanted to oblige! Really really! I was so close but I couldn’t quite get there. I sensed that it was starting to be uncomfortable for her so I threw in the towel. I felt fully satisfied and assured her.
The main issue for me was figuring out when the session is over. I don’t want to just keep going until she gets sore or bored. She hasn’t ever tapped out, but I don’t want to risk abusing her lustful willingness. Maybe it’s over when my ab muscles get too tired. It’s literally anticlimactic.