# So today I(22M) was working out in the gym and a lady(40F) who occasionally makes small talk with me directly asked me what my life goal was. I am a very private person but I can’t be rude so I just said I plan to move out to another country for higher studies. She was taken aback and said this is a stupid goal and I should find some passion instead of thinking about moving out. I then for no reason overshared that I am interested in business psychology. She said, “haha you are so shy how can you get into marketing, look at me I am a social butterfly”. I then overshared again that I didn’t make any friends in college and I am not comfortable with small talk.
While I think she was just being friendly, I feel like complete shit for oversharing about my life to a stranger and have slapped myself like 6 times. How do you get over this regret/shame of oversharing?
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I think you feel bad because of what she said to you. Not very supportive to make a negative comment then upsell themselves. Try to figure out why you feel guilty. Much of our suffering is in our head
Don’t let her close-minded views and pushiness affect how you feel about yourself. You know your goals and your reasons for them. You certainly don’t need some busy bodies permission. Do you and be good at it.