Writing this in need of advice. It’s embarrassing so im using a throwaway. I’m a young woman who is a virgin, and i dont know how to describe this problem, but I’ve been afraid of anytning entering my vagina since I started puberty. I have no idea how to work through this and it is honestly so frustrating. Fingering is not pleasurable because it’s really tight. I’m writing this because I masturbated and that was fine, but I thought my fear had gone so i tried to experiment with penetration but it was so hard and uncomfortable, and later looked at my vagina open in the mirror and I felt so weird for some reason. I don’t understand whats wrong and why it’s so tight.
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Practicing, practicing and practicing…
Only try to put in when you are really wet.
There is nothing wrong with your vagina. Don’t worry about this.
Well I would suggest going to a doctor to get it checked. After that I would suggest going to a sex store and explaining your situation to one of the workers. They will be able to help suggest you are kind of different toys to try out. Cause you need to slowly explore what work for yourself. You might need to try dilators which are silicone toys that you insert and leave in for a little bit. They come in a kit with different sizes so you can slowly build up to bigger size. When you say fingers hurt to put inside you, what about just a pinky finger with lube? You probably get a bunch of lube because your pain is stopping you from getting turned on. You can explore the outside of your vagina and learn all about it. Another thing to consider is trying to explore your asshole by yourself. I mean while your trying to figure this out, your vagina might need a break sometimes. You need to start with putting anything in your butt. You just start by rubbing the outside and paying attention to all the sensations and feelings you get. Eventually when you do start to venture into your butt your be able to stimulate your g spot because it’s just on the other side of the anal wall. You can also try nipple stimulation and see how that goes because some people can orgasm from that alone. Basically what I’m saying is don’t let this get you down and give up on exploring yourself sexually. I suggest you try and make friend woman who have gone through similar situations to get some advice and guidance. I’d also recommend looking up sex therapist who post content online and following a bunch of them. Some of them even have podcasts where you can send them questions anonymously and they’ll answer them.
[21f] as a virgin, I can tell you that I find no pleasure using my fingers, whenever I masturbate I stimulate my clitoris, the only time I used my fingers was the first time I tried masturbation, after discovering the pleasure that the clitoris brings, it’s all I need to climax 😉