Bear with me lol. I (25F) grew up in a poor urban area and throughout my teens I was a loser and a waster, worked shitty jobs and spent all my money partying with my similar minded toxic group of “friends”. Eventually I was able to get out of that situation, went to college, started becoming more well-adjusted, started working on my social skills around more well-adjusted people. I’ve been able to make friends with guys ok since many of them are generally more forgiving about me still being a little rough around the edges but other women tend to find me a little off-putting and there seems to be more social nuance to female friendships that I’m lacking (I’m working on it).
Anyways I did finally make a female friend and she just got engaged. I texted her to congratulate her and she thanked me and wanted to meet up to talk and hang out. I’m guessing she wants to tell me all about the engagement which is cool. I’m probably overthinking this but do I have to like, do something? Is there an unspoken protocol? Like should I buy her something or get her a card?
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A ‘Congratulations on you Engagement’ card addressed to both of them is absolutely appropriate. You could get her a bouquet of flowers if you like, or a small gift for the couple. If you are close friends and she asks you to be in the bridal party, only say yes if you understand the time and financial commitment involved. It can run into the thousands for dress, shoes, hair, makeup, travel, shower gift, wedding gift.