Lately my boyfriend M20 has been hinting that he would want to try anal. I’m F19 pretty much down to try anything so I would be willing to give it a try. The only problem is I am unsure of how to prepare and I am very scared it will hurt. We have butt plugs but I’ve only used them twice and each time it was uncomfortable/ painful. Maybe this is because I don’t have proper lube? I used coconut oil both times and it wasn’t dry, it just hurt. How would I go about being clean before anal? And what are some good lubes? Should we use a condom? Also any advice would be appreciated 🙂
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Douche. Gel type lube and plenty of it. Go slow and gently and remember all the nerves are in your spincter area and the head of his cock deeper isn’t always better.
I’m no anal expert as I’ve only done it a couple of times, but I’ll tell you my experience with it.
The more relaxed you’re, the easier it will be. The first few times I tried it hurt an awful lot, but now I realize it was probably because I had no prior experience with anal play and was really scared about how things would go. Now that I know what to expect, I can relax and then it really doesn’t hurt that bad. Actually, the only pain I felt the last time I tried was when I first inserted the plug, and when we switched to my bf dick I felt a slight discomfort, but nothing out of this world.
Use the plug first or have him use his fingers on you to stretch you slowly, and then move on to trying to insert his dick. Have him go slow and give you time to get used to the sensation before going deeper. Always use lube.
Now talking about how to prep for it, I usually go to the bathroom first and then use the shower hose to do some anal douching. There were times we did it without me planning for it first so I didn’t have the time to do any prior preparations and everything still turned out fine, but I prefer doing this cleaning routine anyways when I can because I always get really nervous about having an accident. If you still end up getting him a little dirty, well, shit happens. He’s sticking his dick on a hole made for popping, after all.
Don’t feel bad for asking him to stop if you’re not feeling comfortable or are in too much pain.
Rule number one HE HAS TO STOP IF YOU SAY STOP AND NOT BE MAD ABOUT IT. If he understands that it helps relieve a lot of anxiety. Any lube works just use plenty of it. I love astroglide. Make sure you’re very turned on first. Lots of foreplay. Even have him get you off a few times first if you’re able. Go slow and have fun.
There is a company called Cake that sells lube specially made for anal. Don’t ask how I know this. 🤐
We’re starting down this road. She was hesitant and a bit shy about it. Her only experience up to this point had been a finger with a previous partner. Went from finger to a “trainer” plug kit. We’re still at the thinnest plug, but so far she’s enjoyed it both it being static and being fucked gently with it. We went up to a thicker one with vibrations that wasn’t specifically for beginners but it was too thick. Had to stop before we made entry though I’m guessing starting cold after a rest didn’t help.
She wants to give it another try with the vibrator one. I’ll add some anal specific lube as well as switch immediately from the beginner one to “warm her up”.