Hello!! I’m (24f) currently starting my sex life, and it’s been all new to me.
I’ve tried missionary and doggy style so far, but most of the time, it hurts when my bf goes in. I take contraceptives and used to take antidepressants, and I think that’s one of the reasons I’m not that horny or don’t get wet that much, and it’s kinda frustrating, because the experience in general is not that pleasurable.
So dear friends, I’m come here to ask for tips and tricks to get confident sexually and try things that can eventually make me cum.
Thank you in advance for your big help. 🙂
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Find out what YOU like by exploring your own body and sexual pleasure first!!
Then you can tell your s/o what feels best and how to get you there!!!
Also antidepressants can cause low libido, i do not recommend getting off of them for the sole purpose of having an orgasm during sex BUT it most def is a factor in difficulty reaching orgasm while on them, just something to keep in mind!!!
Best of luck to you girl💜
Best of luck and ENJOY!!
Lube lube lube! Get some toys and see what you like and don’t like! Also try cowgirl so you’re more in control!
If it hurts and you have trouble getting wet he either needs to do more foreplay or you need to use lube, maybe both.
Sex should be pleasurable, not painful
He needs to eat you out and actually pay attention to your clit. If that doesn’t make it easier maybe you need some lube. Your man may just have a massive hog
Semi-related but I recommend the book “Come as you are” by emily nagoski. Others may have some more practical tips but this book will help explain what is normal (despite what expectations have been set by pop culture) and help frame why you may or may not be feeling the way you think you should.
Recommend lots of foreplay and also keep in mind that stress and what’s going on in your life can affect libido. If this is something new for you and you’re in you’re head thinking “I’m not feeling the way I think I should be feeling” it can kind of be a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Foreplay and lube. Shouldn’t hurt that much if you’re already warmed up
Lube lube lube 🧡
Also foreplay and take your time. It’s always exciting and you might be stressed