how can i seem more interesting?

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1. Enthusiasm is the opposite of boredom.

   You need to start within yourself to develop some passion for: yourself, other people, and LIFE ITSELF.

   I realize that’s a bit of a challenge when you’re feeling down. Maybe make some gratitude lists and plan to do a pay-it-forward exercise every day. (lots of ideas online if you search it)

2. Whether you’re an interesting person with interesting hobbies or interesting things that draw people in isn’t something you can fake. What you *can* do, is work on your life to *be* an interesting person so that you will always have stories and anecdotes to tell.
   What you can also do is make people feel like *they’re* super interesting simply by asking them questions about what they seem passionate about.

3. Peoples favorite subject is themselves, ask them fitting questions to the situation and try to relate, like:
   What class are you taking?
   …
   Oh i heard thats a really hard class, you like it so far?

   That way you both give a bit of information to comment on, and a continuation to the conversation

4. You ask the other person questions with the intention of keeping them talking. People love to talk about themselves. You just gotta listen and when they run out of things to say, you ask them another question. It’s a game.

5. Get out and expirience whats happening around you. Put yourself in some unfamiliar situations. Some interesting things will happen eventually big or small and that will give you some stuff to talk about. Most things i talk about with people are things i do at work and when im at work talk about things i did outside of work.

6. I have done a lot of different, “interesting” things in my life, and I find talking about those things make for terrible conversation.

   I find that the “trick” lies in being interested in the other person, make them feel good about talking about the things that make them interesting (but like, with dignity, not just star struck). I spend a lot of time in conversations trying to find out more about the other person, ideally things they didn’t know about themselves. “Why are you into that particular thing?” “Are these two things you’re into similar?” “Do you see yourself as an expert in this thing?”

7. When you’re talking to them, ask lots of follow up questions, like anything that pops into your mind. If they start to look away or fade out, they probably want to change the subject. Im very social and network a lot for work a lot. I essentially have sort of a list in my head of go to questions when I interact with people I’m less close to. Like, any weekend plans? Traveling anywhere soon or been in any interesting trips lately? Have to tried new restaurants recently? Etc. When they answer, just keep asking follow up questions.

   Another underrated thing is keeping up with mainstream culture. I used to turn my nose up at reality tv. Turns out it gives me so much to talk about at social functions. Stay up to date on the most popular shows, movies, music, etc. I literally consider this my “social homework.” Bring these up when you’re around other people, likely someone will want to chat about it.