Throwaway account because this is embarrassing but just as the title says… my new boyfriend who is only my second sexual partner has a much much bigger penis than my previous partners. The first time we had sex he could barely get the tip in and I made up some excuse and told him I didn’t have sex in a long time so it tightened up which wasn’t true but whatever. Anyways in the subsequent months I’ve opened up to him about it and we’ve been using a lot of lube and he’s been “warming me up” by going down on me and fingering me but nothing works. He can get probably 70% of his dick in but that causes pretty bad pain and we have to go pretty slow or its unbearable. He is very respectful about it but I can tell he’s frustrated and not getting sexually satisfied. I always end up giving him a blowjob or sucking his balls while he jerks off to cum so he never finishes during actual sex. Is there anything else we can try/do?
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Some people just aren’t sexually compatible, and that’s neither of your faults.
If girth is the problem, there’s really nothing else the two of you can do. You can try practicing on your own with dildos and increase in size until you get more comfortable with his size (*if* you ever get more comfortable with it).
If length is the problem, you can try something like the OhNut or adjust positions to make it so he has to take shallower strokes.
Orgasm first. Lube and go slow. Also ohnut or a bumper
Try different positions. So being on top might be easier because you control it, I would avoid doggy or you on your back and him standing up facing you on the bed. Maybe you laying down and him on a side, might be easier? Experiment with that