To all my couples who have differing libidos how do you guys do it?

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1. To be honest, I’m still struggling with this issue. My bf is 10 years my junior but he can’t keep up with me. We have been together for 5 years. It was better in the beginning but now he tells me that I would “fuck myself off a cliff” because I would rather be having sex than doing just about anything else. I’m at a point where I am going to get it elsewhere. And unless he steps up to the plate, he doesn’t have a say in the matter.

2. Depends on how far along and serious the relationship is. Sexual compatible is not the most important aspect of a relationship but it is an aspect because it will be a life time choice.

   On top of that low libido can be just who they are or it could be influence from medication or personal issues that could be suppressing it. As you ages somone can go from an active one to a less active one as well.

   As cliche as it is the best outcome is compromise. The high libido will have to recognize their partner won’t be as active and will have to not resent them for it.

   While the low libido person has to recognize that their partners sex drive is higher and will behave accordingly. Which means they can expect more sexual overtures, innuendo and dirty comments then they might make.

   Porn and sex toys should be allowed if not encouraged to allow for an outlet of the sexual desires. There is also the use of hand jobs and oral as neither of those require arousal to perform. Just a willingness to perform them.

   There are so many variations that can happen depending on the relationship and the people in it. There is no one size fit all.

3. Wife’s was way higher than mine when we first meet. But over the last few years mine has got higher and hers has got lower.

   Luckily she doesn’t let that get in the way of a good time 😃 and is always willing to help me out, pretty much on a daily basis.

   The advantages of having a great relationship we have built together over the years.

4. Well there’s a lot of variation to “differing libidos”, that could mean someone enjoys having sex five times a day versus someone who is only up for once a month *or* it could mean someone who enjoys sex once a day and someone who needs one day a week off.

   Non-monogamy is something that everyone should consider as a potential option in the world, but it’s going to look different for everyone and the reasons for that are not always sexual or having to do with libido.

   Some people break up and others work it out.

   My partner has more of a libido than I do, and we make it work because I *want* to fuck him more and try to meet him where he’s at. That’s not prescriptive advice, just what works for us.

5. I just make sure she’s satisfied. If she’s being too aggressive or demanding I just physically subdue her and “force” her to orgasm until she gets it out.