So… as a bi girl there’s a couple that’s into me. I’ve never been with two people at once (and very little experience with women) and I don’t know what to do for it. The dynamics as the third one and what’s like appropriate and I definitely don’t want either to feel left out as they’re a couple and I feel super awkward when we first tried to do it and we did but idk I was to nervous to enjoy everything and I just need some ideas so I can relax easier…
UPDATE:
So they’re asking me to stay the night tomorrow…. I’ll definitely bring this up with them but does this mean they want to like. Date me? Cause I don’t think hookups normally do sleepovers…
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I’d say they may want to share you. The woman probably would want to eat you out or tease her man while you eat her out
I’m curious about having one with my man and another guy, but yeah, I feel you. Bringing up the idea to him is currently my biggest stumbling block.
As the 3rd to a couple, ull be the “new shiny play thing”, so it’s very likely the attention is going to default to u. As always I suggest discussing what u want before hand. Maybe breaking things up might help.
For example, every position change is a diff person getting double teamed. Start double bj. Switch to him eating her + her eating u. Switch to u doggy style, u eating her. Switch to her cowgirl, him eating u. Etc.
If u keep rotating who is getting doubled up on, then maybe it will help u feel less overwhelmed with the attention.
Edit: consider getting a strap-on. It might also help with the flow of interactions
Follow the girl’s lead! Don’t do anything with the guy that hasn’t been okayed by her and pay attention to her face and body language just to confirm that she really is comfortable with it during the act. Unless they’re experienced swingers, she may not actually be prepared for the what she may feel.
Most couples have rules on what they can and can’t do with a 3rd. Find out what those are and stick to them and just go with the flow. You are going to have so much fun.
Ok, tell them you want to have a discussion about wants, desires, and boundaries.
•Boundaries: These are all of the “I don’t want this to happen at all” things. Obviously, it’s hard to name all the things you don’t want because there just isn’t enough time for that; BUT it is a good opportunity for you to make sure something you don’t want doesn’t happen and also to make sure one of them doesn’t do something spur of the moment that will upset the other.
•Wants & desires: When they tell you what they want to have happen, it will give you a game plan. “Ok, they want me and her to 69 while he is inside of her” BAM you now have something to aim for. Any want or desire that doesn’t conflict with a boundary can become something you can plan for, strategize, and expect. It’s ok to not hit all of them if you get too tired, but as a third you are there to help.
Have this conversation at least a day before the actual act, and this will give you time to think about what you’re going to do, and it can also facilitate a conversation that can bring up new things you may all be willing to try.
With a good session there is usually a natural flow where each participant becomes the. Eye of attention. Just take it slow and go with the flow.
Have a talk with them set your boundaries and let them set theirs ask what they want and express what you want out of the three way you might be surprised that you find that you want the same things but in a different way they may want to be in charge and they may want you to lead the way so ask before you even meet up what they would like and what your position is in it are you just a toy are you there to help the wife pleasure just him are you there for them to share you just ask never hurts
Inviting you to stay the night could be them being polite. A third is called a unicorn for a reason and they want to make sure that you have the option of spending the night instead of feeling like you’re going to be kicked out at the end. When I have had a threesome the third who is a close friend has always spent the night. The idea of asking or expecting her to leave is absurd to me.
Also it’s important to note that you’re in a position of power to negotiate conditions. So don’t hesitate to do so. Conditions could be anything from rules to an expectation that they get a hotel or buy you dinner first. Whatever makes you more comfortable, if they’re smart they’ll agree to it within reason.
As other people have already mentioned, there’s likely rules between the partners on what is and isn’t allowed and it’s definitely something you should ask about. Not only will it help prevent any issues later but you’ll get a good idea of the couple’s relationship with each other based on those rules.