I want to be more social and I’m reasonably good at talking to people, it just leaves me so drained. I’ll share a good introduction with someone but there’s no follow up. Part of that is because I don’t have a lot of experience with initiating follow-up so haven’t fully internalized how to follow-up.
But, usually, I just don’t want to hang out longer, which makes it hard to want to follow up. Which makes it hard to gain experience following up with people. After a certain point, socializing feels like a chore. Like I’m putting too much energy into “figuring them out” (that’s a bad way to phrase it but I’m not sure how else to describe what I feel).
This isn’t true if it’s someone I’m close with like family or old friends. Then I enjoy hanging out and don’t wanna stop talking.
Anyone else have a similar experience? Am I just not clicking with the people I happen to meet or is this just a me problem?
I’m aware I’m overanalyzing things rn. The answer is probably just to keep practice not filtering myself. The impulse to overthink things is just so strong.