Recently I (21F) got a partner who loves giving and receiving love bites and turns out so do I. In light of that, I’ve started to have more hickies on my neck. I hide it for work because duh, but couldn’t shake this uncomfortable obsessive fear of what others must think when they catch glimpses of them in public.
Luckily, after reading many posts all over the internet and seeing the types of people who call love bites “trashy”, I’ve realized it doesn’t matter. I am happy, and he is happy. These marks don’t signify ownership or branding (thats putting a little too much thought into it even for me) they are just marks of me being loved. I’m not stuck in high-school immaturity, in fact I feel so mature and content with myself knowing that I make myself and my partner happy. This isn’t about anyone but us. And for those who take offence at seeing them, this ain’t about you weirdo. In this lifetime where nothing matters and nothing is 100% sure, I’m either happy for someone or have no opinions on seeing them on others. My pleasure is not shameful and I hope this helps others realize that too.
Lemme know your thoughts💭
4 comments
Congratulations good for you I am an addict to give hickies all the time
I don’t mind giving or getting, but I work in a professional and sensitive position and I dont feel it’s appropriate for me to have them out there, so only below the shoulders line for me. Each to their own thankfully. I’m not embarrassed, just like to keep my private life outta my work life.
I’ve always seen them as proof you got some action. I love getting them, it’s like my bf is marking me as his. Unfortunately I work in a semi professional job and I can’t be going to work with those marks on my neck. So I can’t let my bf give me hickeys anymore Unfortunately. I don’t think they’re embarrassing though
Once I went to a family party without knowing I had one. Walked right in with my bf. Cousin asked if I got burnt by a car muffler. Confused I asked my bf what she was talking about. Funniest shit ever