I (F) have no idea how I figured this out, but when I started masturbating, I would basically pull up on the front of my underwear so that the pressure of it on me and my clit would eventually make me orgasm. Since late middle school, I’ve been doing it that way and it works. No hands, toys, or anyone needed.

I decided that I wanted to switch it up, so I started fingering myself. That, mixed with clit stimulation. However, I haven’t been able to reach an orgasm, even if I go back to the good ol’ “tug”.

I need to wing myself off of the underwear thing, because there’s no way I could do that when my bf and I have sex. (He’s aware that I do this, and he knows my fingering fiasco.)

So my question is: how do I orgasm by fingering myself? Is there a certain way I should prepare/do it? Do I need to keep trying? I realize these are a few questions… lol. Ok bonus question: am I the only one who does the underwear thing? I feel so alone lol

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  2. Fingering never gets me to orgasm. I’m just not an internal orgasm kinda gal. I can cum from many different ways of clitoral stimulation though. Try different things. A personal fave when I was younger was running water from a bath faucet

  3. I don’t think many women can. I can’t finger myself to orgasm, my boyfriend can though, from a different angle and 3 fingers. If you want to try an internal orgasm when masturbating maybe try dipping your fingers in your pussy and hooking, then sliding out and rubbing your clit, keep going back and forth, I can only do it with the clit stim. Also i would suggest a vibrator to try and have easier orgasms when masturbating, a classic rabbit or something. And yeah masturbating through clothes feels awesome 😉

  4. Some people cannot orgasm with penetration. It’s quite normal. You can read a bunch of tips on how to marsturbate but there’s a chance you’ll never reach it. You can keep trying, but you shouldn’t feel any pressure to change that.

    Also, no, you’re not the only one. It’s quite common to masturbate only using that kind of pressure. And, great news, you can totally do that with a partner, in many ways 🙂

    I recommend doing some research on syntribation, it’s similar to what you’re experiencing.

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