I’m a 19 year old guy in college and just started dating a girl. I haven’t been in a relationship for a WHILE and thought I was ready for one. After the first week I started remembering why I haven’t been in a relationship. I absolutely hate keeping someone entertained 24/7. I love being by myself all the time and having to worry about a whole person is so exhausting. Is there any other hardcore introverts out there that found a person that compliments you perfectly? I feel like I might just never be in a serious relationship because of this.
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It is normal! You are only 19 and shouldn’t be worry about serious relationships at this stage. Work on yourself, gain confidence and learn more about life and work hard to achieve goals in life! With all these in place, love and success will knock your door. I hope this help!
When you’re first dating, I would say it’s abnormal to be around them 24/7. You go on dates. Maybe spend the occasional night. Hang out at set times, but still have your own lives. Have boundaries until you’re close enough that you can exist in the same room/house without needing to be switched “on” all the time.
I get you. Being a strong introvert in a relationship is exhausting! Dont forget your own goals, maintain your own space, boundaries are very important. Make a note of what’s important to you, quiet times, reading books, studying, journalling, etc. Make sure they know about these things and they the are important to you and your relationship. With messages/calls make sure they know what you are and aren’t comfortable with. I’m terrible at calls and replying to messages. Took 2 years to get comfortable with my fella.