My husband has never once said anything disparaging but I worry. My clit has two modes if someone else is in control: absolutely nothing, and Jesus fuck it’s overwhelming get off me *now.* The only exception to this was for some reason during my first pregnancy I could orgasm if someone so much as sneezed in the general direction of my crotch. Not so with my second, though. So who knows.
Does anyone else have this issue? If I control (by hand or external vibrator) while he’s inside me we both have a grand time and in 7 years he’s never ever complained. But am I setting us up for some sort of resentment on his part? Is he eventually going to tire of not being able to get me off without my aid? I hate to admit it but if the tables were turned I would take it a bit personally, like my skills aren’t up to par. He’s luckily the easygoing one of the two of us, though.
It’s been this way my whole life for many partners, so it’s me not him.
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I don’t think offended would describe this but more like frustrated. Had a short term gf I dealt with this issue. It was a struggle by myself and until me no guy could ever get her there. It can be a blow to your confidence level but if you talk it through all is well. For me it never got old just became a challenge or mission.
I thought most people did that, used their hands during Piv. Doesn’t seem like a big deal to me
Most ladies need some manual help to cum during PIV, so knowing that he’s an adult, he’s probably pretty happy that you two have a rythm to fuck and get off together.
Relax and enjoy it.
This is my entire relationship and we have been together 20 years and no issues. He did get me off once holding my vibrator (me not holding it) and I didn’t like it as much as me holding it so I do my clit and he does the penetration and it’s fine. I really can’t figure out how this works for other people because fucking (penetrating) is hard so then the guy is also doing her clit and balancing his body weight on one hand while doing it? Seems difficult.
You should probably talk to your partner about how you feel but likely he doesn’t have an issue.
You sound like the ideal partner. Good on you! I’ve had a few who expected me to read their mind and get them off, ugh. Your partner should be delighted. 👍
well I’ve been married and in love 25 yrs now, your husbands a lucky dude. lol, i got a little wood from your description on how you and your husband fuck