My partner wants me to go harder, but them I cum quicker. I can last longer by controlling my breathing and not clinching, but she does like the feel of that as much, she wants me to keep clinching for a harder erection, but that makes me come too fast for her.
Any advise on how to keep clinching but not come too quickly?
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More Kegels
Get sone drugs lol
I know I guy who couldn’t last last he got something called pilogy and he lasted like 50mins it was lush
Short fast bursts, then slow it down. Changing positions help ls too. If you aren’t already, perhaps use a condom, it desensitizes things.
Sometimes it depends on the position.
Yeah same for me. Wife got annoyed and quit on sex this weekend because I was slowing it down to try to make the whole interaction last more than 7 minutes.
I saw somewhere once that someone said their partner puts numbing cream on his penis before they do the deed, and it helps him last a bit longer. It does wear off after a bit so you can enjoy the sex, of course.
Try a cock ring. I like the lasso style because it’s adjustable.
Couple things. How is your overall health? Do you exercise with cardio? Do you eat a healthy diet? Both of those things help with stamina. If it’s a sensitivity thing, bust a nut an hour or two before you’re going to fuck her. It helps prevent busting that sweet milk too soon. Wear a cock ring and maybe even a condom. Do you do any foreplay? Smack her ass during doggy until it’s red and she’s loving it? Choke her the way she likes it? A finger or butt plug in her ass while you’re pounding her? There are so many things you could try and do.
Sometimes do it with an element of surprise.
Position also matters.
1. Lie her on her back, raise her legs over your shoulders or you can pin her down in this position. You plank. Then go to town. You can start slow and then hammer it home. Or you can hammer it home and then slow down and mix it up. It may work wonders for her if you incorporate into the action your member coming out of her pussy as you withdraw and re-enter as you smash it down.
2. Lie her on hey belly. Pillow under her hips/waist. Sort of modified doggy/prone bone, then you go to town. You can make it harder by planking yourself and go to town.
Cumming too fast can be easily avoided with a little more masturbation. It desensitizes you a bit and the more recently you’ve cum the harder it is to cum again.
As people have mentioned, there’s several things you can do to possibly work around this.
One would be making sure that you’re in good cardiovascular shape. If you’re in shape, your more likely to be able to maintain your stamina for longer periods of time. That could be a solid goal to build for. To go with the health idea, you could also practice exercising you Kegel muscles as this will help with a plethora of things to include better urinary health, more control over orgasms, and possibly even more vibrant orgasms.
Another thing you can do is utilize toys or objects designed specifically for this issue. One of those being cock rings, there are a plethora of options out there, with options for your cock, cock and balls, and even vibration ones. These restrict blood flow and allow for harder cocks, while delaying orgasms in most cases. Vibrating ones are especially fun because they feel good on you, but can please your partner as well. Just make sure that they are worn for limited periods of time to not create any long lasting health issues. Condoms can be added to remove some of the sensation, as well as being a bedrock in the principles of safe sex.
If you masturbate, you could potentially change your masturbation habits to mimic what you are trying to get out of sex. Work on extending your masturbation periods, and create tools you can use to stave off orgasm.
Lastly, if you’re fucking her like she wants to be fucked, and you’re so into her that you bust early…tell her “you’re so sexy, I just can’t help myself, or your body is so amazing that I just can’t hold on any longer.” Then cum, keep pleasuring her in some way until you can get hard again, and keep going. Just because you cum, doesn’t mean you automatically have to stop. She should feel pleased that you’re so into her that you cum when having sex!
Masturbate and come before having sex. Sounds weird, but you will last longer
A combination of numbing spray and condoms works for me for pounding.
I read partner as parents and got sooooooooo scared
Jerk off before sex. Twice if needed. I had this problem and used to do that. It would take me forever to cum after that, sometimes too long depending on how much reserves I had left in the tank. It must’ve worked psychologically too because I eventually stopped needing to do it to last.
I like to use a cord around my d & balls to stay harder for longer plus it means i cum harder too. you can buy something like an Arab Strap but i prefer a soft cord about the diameter of a pencil, infinitely adjustable and you can experiment with how you tie it
Harder doesn’t mean faster
Go down on her first before you do anything else. Don’t stop until she comes. Then proceed onto whatever’s next. If she still isn’t satisfied after that then it’s not you, it’s her. She would need to lower her expectations at that point and work on being a little less demanding.
Cock ring. Desensitizing creams
If you can, you could work on cardio. Stronger heart, better circulation, and if you build some muscle while you’re at it, you can go harder with less effort.