An old friend of mine requested to be FWB. Hang out, drink, watch movies, sex, etc. went to his place once, we had sex, he said we should do it regularly before I left, then he ghosted me after. He says he doesn’t want a relationship and I am totally up for the FWB.
How do I ask him what the problem is without being rude or irritating? I’d like it to continue and I’m very disappointed that he seems to be ghosting me.
Maybe he just doesn’t find me as attractive as he used to or he found someone else but the next day he found someone else?
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The proviso of FWB is that you can cancel any time. Granted, if he didn’t want to continue it would have been more polite to give you a heads up instead of ghosting, but it is what it is.
No point in reaching out, he’ll ignore your message/leave you on read. Just block, delete and move on.
The moment you decide to turn a friendship into a sexual relationship you should be ready to lose both.
It was faster than you expected, right? You lost a friend and now you feel rejected and have your self-esteem affected while wondering if there’s something wrong with your body, if you’re not attractive enough, etc.
Casual sex is not for the everyone and seems that is not for you, especially when you decide to initiate it with someone you already have a friendship with.
Take it as a learning lesson and see if that’s something you really should be doing.
From someone who has been in your shoes, if you are very disappointed, enough to post on Reddit, then an FWB with this guy is not a good idea. If it was truly FWB, then you might think ,”that sucks, but oh well”. Maybe you wanted more than just FWB?