I’m 34 year old engaged and I don’t wear my ring for a couple of reasons and I was wondering if I am i falling out of love…
1. He knows I don’t love the ring. I politely told him I wanted to change the settings. He listened. The ring doesn’t fit my liking and he copied his grandmother’s. He made the ring seem it would be a lot nicer than It turned out. We haven’t gotten this done because his mom is sick I offer to pay for the changes.
2. He doesn’t excite me. I don’t think he really appreciates me all thaT I do for him and his mom. I work a 60 week. We didn’t celebrate our anniversary. Again I keep saying his mom is I’ll. He admits he has changed.
3. I just feel embarrassed and sad about my wedding. My maid of honor is MIA. We can’t choose a venue because we are with his mom every week. I don’t see him anymore. Honestly this weekend I don’t want to see him. I want to catch up sleep.
4. Simply put I feel like my ring doesn’t even compare with the women I work with. My mom did not have a big flashy ring but worked in an important job. I see all these happy and excited couples. I don’t know what to do….
I always wanted to marry him but now I feel like I could do better. Please help.
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Don’t marry someone you don’t want to marry.
Seems like you care more about a ring than a life partner.
Sounds very materialistic. If he doesn’t make you happy, focus on that and communicate to fix it, or move on. But how a ring looks doesn’t define love and needing others attention/approval on it is not healthy.
Wow!! Hahaha I just read your other post. You are mad cuz he got you less expensive flowers. Oh my. You man thought of you, or effort into getting flowers and surprising you… and you are concerned with the price tag. Sad.
Call off the wedding. You don’t deserve to be in an unhappy marriage, and your partner deserves to be with someone who can be more accommodating of his circumstances.
Cancelling an engagement is a whole lot easier than divorcing.
I think you need to let him go. He’s not going to provide you what you want.
A ring doesn’t fix the reasons you don’t feel someone is right for you. You do come across a little materialistic, but I also get the impression that maybe you’re fixating on the ring and other material things because you’re not really happy with this engagement.
My ring is small and comparatively pretty inexpensive, but I love it because it is unique to me, and because I was so excited just to get engaged.
It sounds like maybe your fiance’s situation with his mom’s illness is too much for you. And that’s okay, that alone doesn’t make you a bad person. My mother went through a long illness before she passed, and it pretty much consumed my life.
Maybe you need to take a step back, take some time for yourself, and reassess? Or at least give it some more time before proceeding with wedding planning. Don’t put your fiance through getting married to someone who’s not enthusiastic about it, that’s not fair on him.