Long story short. Im 33 yo with only one partner before her, been together for 7 years and sex wasnt spectacular, she would never want to try new things so we kept things very simple all this time therefore i call myself very inexperienced. My current gf is 11 years older than me and she’s very open about sex, she kinda feels sorry that ive never got to fully experience sex. She said to me the other day that ive got 3 wishes to ask for and she’ll do her best to fullfil them. I dont even know what to ask…She gives me blowjobs without asking, also offered anal sex if i ever wanted it. Any ideas?
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Well whatever floats your boat. Threesome, anal, pegging, feet licking etc
Ummm…if one of them isn’t for 100 more sex wishes, you’re not thinking ahead.
“A threesome every birthday until I can’t fuck any longer,” should be a close second.
Nobody can answer this question but yourself, what are you into? You shouldn’t even need “wishes” ideally your normal non-sex friend relationship with her should be confortable enough that you can know she’s not gonna judge you and you can just tell her what you want, you really need to build that status it’s important in a couple you need to both trust that whatever is going on around you, you two are gonna stick by each other and aren’t going to judge each other.
Then you can both open up safely and confidently to each other and do what you can to make each other as happy as possible because that’s the whole point, you and your partner form a team together
Week end in a hotel to play! Outdoor sex! Soft BDSM, voyeurism, exhibitionist! Role play! Rope play! Threesome, foursome, orgies!
The sky is the limit and it doesn’t have to be complicated to make you happy!!!
Sexcation. Somewhere in the woods. Quiet cabin with no neighbors.. No clothes the entire weekend. Anything goes. And like Vegas… What happens in the woods, stays in the woods
First off, tell her that you want to express these wishes over time, rather than all at once. So that as you explore you can dig deeper or change directions.
Secondly, this could be a subtle way to get you to expand your horizons in bed because *she* wants to. If so it’s well done, and don’t ask her that question until wish #3 is done…if, by then, you need to.
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So one wish because “Work our way through this”, and have an open mind so (where applicable) you use the thing on her, then she uses the thing on you. And if she’s up for anal, are you up for her playing with your butt?
If nothing else occurs during that wish, find a copy of the Karma Sutra. Then wish #2 becomes “work our way through this”.
Wish number three…well, at that point you’ll know what it needs to be.
In all seriousness no threesome. This will fuck up a relationship. It sounds like you have a good woman so don’t mess that up. Some things a better kept a fantasy unless you was dying in the near future.
Tell her to tie you down and use you for a day
Why does this question appear so frequently here? Nobody knows what you’ll enjoy. Go to a porn site and skim through videos in the many different categories until you find 3 things you want to try.
More sex wishes?
Weird how many of the responses are “THREESOMES!!!!!” Boring, typical and corny.
1. That she helps you with that bank heist that you always wanted.
2. That when you two break up, she will always be your wing man.
3. I’m going to take my time with this last wish
Easy.
1st wish: Ask for infinite wishes.
Problem solved
Waking up to head. I can not tell you how amazing it is waking up to a girl already blowing you, it’s amazing!
1. Sexual massage leading to milking
2. Costume (your fav) roleplay
3. Spend some time figuring out your unknown kinks and make them happen
Don’t have a threesome.
I mean … _do_ you have some kind of secret sex bucket list item? This’d be a great time to bring it up, even if it’s more of a “I’ve always had this fantasy, but idk if it would actually be fun in real life…” kind of activity.
It sounds like your gf is pretty giving and open, which is awesome, and I hope you appreciate this and let her know you appreciate it. My thinking is that if she’s already in a GGG mindset, then you don’t really need “wishes”. If there’s something you want and it doesn’t actively ick her out, then she’ll give it a try, and if it _does_ make her skin crawl, then probably you don’t want to do it even if she’d be willing to do it as a “wish”.
I think you should take this as an invitation to talk more about stuff that turns you on even if you don’t know that she’s into it. If she _is_ into it then by all means do it. But also you want to be in a place where one of you can say “Okay, I can see that turns you on but wow that isn’t for me” and nobody’s feelings get hurt. Maybe what super turns you on is to dress up like clowns and have sex on a pile of balloon animals. If she’s like “okay, that’s a little weird but if it turns him on then I like that” then you win. If she’s like “I have childhood clown trauma and this is my personal hell” then bummer, you don’t get to do your thing, but at least you’ve talked about it and she won’t think any less of you for it.
Also, for extra credit … after you talk about stuff you like, if you can talk about stuff *she* likes but wasn’t sure she could bring up without scaring you? Bam, your sex life just got 80% better.
Blowjob EVERY morning
For all that is merciful, please do not ask for a threesome. If you have been on Reddit long enough, you have seen how those relationships always crumble, and someone always gets hurt in the falling out, do not be that person to let a seven years relationship go down the drain for curiosity and wanting to explore.
These are the thinbgs I could only recommend you try.
– Normal sex while she is plugged. Didn’t think it over before, but it really feels great.
– Bondage with hood, you as well as her. Once more the (sensory) depreviation is something to experience
– wifi controlled vibrator play in public. She wears it, you control it whenever you want. It’s great fun.
Anyway these or something else, enjoy. Wished I had myself somebody that open.
Well is there anything YOU really want to try that you are yet to experience?
I personally have a wishlist of stuff to try, but that’s because I’m excited by the thought of doing them
But what works for 1 person, someone else will have different fantasies
Take your time, think about things you’re keen on and have fun. Use this opportunity to spice it up. Your partner sounds amazing and open to giving you new experiences. Take this chance, communicate and have fun!
If you’re not really sure what to ask for maybe have a discussion with her about it? Maybe start with talking about the things you’re comfortable with and uncomfortable with that you know of. You can explore your options together which may help give you a sense of where your comfort level is at and can help the both of you figure out the things you’d both like to try together. Sex and kinks are a spectrum and there’s no reason to jump into the kinkiest thing unless you truly are up for it. Maybe ask to come up with your first wish together to test things out. Talk to her about things you fantasize about. It could be as simple as something like her (or you) wearing a costume that turns you on. Maybe bringing a toy into the bedroom. Since you’ve expressed that you’re inexperienced starting off simple and building up with each wish may help ease you into the experience and make it more enjoyable for you. Don’t feel pressured to jump into something you’re uncomfortable with just to please her, it sounds like she wants to please you! And if that’s really the case then open communication is a huge must.
Ask her for pure domination. So you don’t have to do a thing. You can just lay on your back and she will do all the work. You’ll love it
I was in your shoes once, I called myself inexperienced too, 6 or 7 years ago. My partner and I have been together for 11 years now and now we are fully into weeks-long sex games, sex challenges and stuff like that.
We talked a lot about what we liked and he pushed me gently out of my safe zone year after year, so I guess it all revolves around communication and time.
Tell each other what you like and want, don’t be afraid of being “too basic” about your sexual needs and don’t feel intimidated by her prowess. And, more importantly, take time to explore themes that interest you, to watch videos, listen to podcasts and read books, and involve her into the conversation. This will make it easier to formulate your 3 wishes, in due time!
Hope this helps 🙂
The FAQ section about spicing things up includes a link to a sex several sex questionnaire sites that you can use to find out what you’re both interested in doing, [https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_spicing_things_up](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_spicing_things_up) You can use the Spicer app to take a sex questionnaire. This sex positions guide has 250+ positions. You could make a wish that you try using a new position every time you have sex. You could do a sex challenge. You find a lot of ideas for sexx challenges if you search r/sex for “sex challenge” and Google “sex challenge”.