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ive only gotten intimate w my bf a handful of times bc we’re ldr and sometimes he pokes fun at me for not being able to make him cum thru oral. im a bit insecure bc we’ve been doing it for a while but he usually goes down on me and not me on him so i don’t get a lot of practice, and on top of that i have bulimia and my gag reflex is so bad and im afraid to throw up on him 😭 and im a bit insecure and confused and ik he’s really understanding and ik that communication will help but omg just trying to give a bj is embarrassing and maybe it’s my mindset as well.. any tips getting over this?
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Toothbrush. Stimulate your gag reflex with the smooth side of it (not the bristle end), and practice regularly. Once you get to a point where that’s not stimulating it much, try a toy. It’s a learning curve.
Strangely, gripping your thumb inside of your fist tends to make the reflex more mild.
If you have bulimia then he needs to be more understanding about your gag reflex , also gag reflex is natural and people shouldn’t feel insecure about it. The only people that should be insecure are those that shame others for something.
Having an eating disorder almost automatically comes hand in hand with sexual anxiety. I’d advice to seek treatment for the eating disorder before focusing on sexual relationships.