Hi all,
My partner told me that he (35m) wanted to become celibate before meeting me after we’ve had a lack of sexual moments recently, this has been problematic for me. He now says he can’t fulfil me in that way, but that the relationship is great.
As we’re both in love and have a great relationship, how do we progress without having sexual intimacy? Any advice would be great.
I’m not prepared to leave atm as I’ve never met anyone I’m as compatible with in all other ways. But this is making me feel rejected and undesired.
Thank you
2 comments
If sexual intimacy is important to you your partner should validate those feelings and a discussion should take place. Things aren’t compatible when a huge part of a person isn’t being validated and satisfied. Communicate your needs and have expectations.
Hello! Before you take a decision lets go deeper: Why did he take that stance? Is it religion, trauma, culture, inexperience?
Studies show a healthy libido in relationships are top 3 in terms of long term impact, as you say lack of it can make the other person feel undesired, unloved, etc. If you guys are compatible in every other thing you can probably work this out slowly but we really need to unravel the motivation and how categorically he feels about it, hopefully its talkable!
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Without knowing too much, I would say start by just cuddling, massaging the other person if sex itself is the problem as a way to show physical appreciation, and then maybe if you guys start feeling the heat masturbate each other but take it one step at a time.