My post is only marginally sexrelated but I can’t really think of a better subreddit to post this question I hope thats okay.
So due to health issues on my behalf I wasn’t able to have sex the last few weeks. My SO of knows and respects this. Yesterday we cuddled and he put his hand on my breast and rested it there (he asked if it was ok). Nothing else happened and we just laid there. He did not move his hand even in the slightest and we did not kiss. This is my first relationship an now my question is if this is some unconcious compensation for the missing sexual touch or if it is some way to try to connect emotionally and build intimacy?
I know I could ask him, which I also plan to do, but he isn’t very good in emotional introspection and probably won’t know an answer either so I’d really appreciate your thoughts on this before I ask him. Thanks in advance.
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> now my question is if this is some unconscious compensation for the missing sexual touch or if it is some way to try to connect emotionally and build intimacy?
Why not both? I don’t think it was “unconscious” in any way since he clearly made a deliberate choice to do it, but there’s no reason a gesture like this has to be perceived as either sexual or romantic when those two things can absolutely coexist in the same gesture.
Boobs are soft and comforting. I’ll cup my own sometimes just randomly. I think it was a gesture of intimacy in this case, rather than sexual.
Boobs are magical. Holding them is a way to make everything better.
Nice intimacy. ❤️
Boobs are nice to touch. It’s just that simple.
I like cupping my partner’s penis when he’s soft and we’re just cuddling. It’s intimate and comforting. I imagine your partner cupping your boobs is similar.
I hold my partners penis when we are just laying on the sofa or in bed, but its not in a sexual way.. I just like to feel it
Most nights my wife falls asleep holding my dick and balls. She says it’s comforting and she enjoys it. Nothing sexual On nights when she doesn’t do that we often fall asleep in the spoon position. My arm draped over her with my hand on her hood. Again not sexual just an intimate touch
They feel nice and it’s intimate. It’s not necessarily sexual. My SO likes this too. They tell me to do this because it feels nice for them too.
I love falling asleep with my hands touching any of my partners bits. I pick boob or vagina when spooning, or if we are apart and she’s prone, I love carresing ass. Not trying to initiate sex, I guess it’s like everyone is saying, it’s comforting and just feels great.
I wish my partners would do the same to me but hasn’t happened yet.