Hello, I’m 18 and a male and I’m very shy and have been very shy for my whole life. I get super nervous talking to people I’m not comfortable with but there’s a really cute girl at the gym I’ve been wanting to talk to for a while but don’t know how.

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  1. I feel like I should save the full version of this comment in my notes at this point:

    Stop hitting on women at the gym. I actually lean toward stop approaching them entirely, but it can go okay.

    People go to the gym to work out not to make friends or get asked out right then. If you must do it at the gym, at least do it at a group workout that has an inherent social component.

  2. I think there’s very few times you should be approaching people at the gym in terms of trying to get their number or something. The main time I think it’s appropriate is if there is mutual eye contact for longer periods of time. I do think it’s perfectly fine to give compliments on stuff like being impressed about the weight they are lifting or form. Or even asking for tips about form. And I’m saying this more of a thing you say to anyone, not just targetting saying it to girls.

  3. Not a very good idea, people go to the gym to workout and not talk so chances are you’re going to annoy her. A lot of women feel uncomfortable from lots of guys staring at the gym

  4. Girls in the gym you should only approach if you have made eye contact and smiled a bit, you could then do what hamza did which is to ask them to watch your stuff while you go to the toilet of something and then spark up a conversation. Obviously don’t interrupt mid set, and what’s so great about the gym is that if it’s beggining to get awkward you can just go back to working out. And always end the conversation at the height

  5. The general rule is you don’t. Women don’t want to be hit on at the gym and doing it anywya can get you kicked out

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